After the debacle of last week, I have kept my expectations low. I continued to email "Ohio doctor guy" and "Ohio commuter guy". I also did get a response from "Russian PhD guy" and I wrote him back. "Ohio doctor guy" asked if we could IM because he wasn't big on writing emails on the Plentyoffish.com site and he wanted to talk in real time. Additionally, he said that he's only working part time now since he just graduated med school and missed the residency matching. Honestly, it sounds rather fishy to me.
There is also "Romanian guy". I had actually received an email from him the week leading up to the Super Bowl while I was waiting to meet "Med student guy". I did write him back to "Romanian guy" but during Super Bowl weekend things became rather hectic and I wasn't able to get back to him until the Tuesday after the game. When I didn't hear from him I assumed he had met someone else. However, he emailed me last Tuesday or Wednesday that he had just been too busy to get online and that he had gotten my IM request.
So now both "Romanian guy" and "Ohio doctor guy" are trying to pin me down on instant messenger. However, while they were leaving me IMs last night, I was out meeting "PhD coffee guy". Turns out that "PhD coffee guy" is much cuter in person than his picture! And he's going for a PhD in Physics and Math at Pitt. He also seemed like he was very modest and sweet, not arrogant like some of the guys I have met, such as "Nuclear engineer guy".
Since "PhD coffee guy" and I hadn't really had much email conversation prior to meeting, we did have some awkward moments. He also seems to be a bit more like me as he was occasionally prone to having a quiet moment where he was listening but also thinking. It was also funny that we went to a coffee shop and were both drinking tea. And he was there before me so it was definitely not just him being polite and drinking what I was. He had also picked a nice little tab in the corner - when I first walked into the coffee shop I didn't see him and there was a moment where I there was a just a little thought of "what if he doesn't show up?" that went through my head since I was about 5 minutes late and I didn't see him. Stupid "Med student guy" trying to screw up my head...thank goodness it didn't work!
At the end of the evening after we talked about the usual getting-to-know-you questions and discussion as well as 2 cups of tea, it was time to head out since he had work to do for today. Then it got really awkward. I was having a hard time gauging his reactions. There were many moments where he was smiling and probably just as many when he wasn't. After the first cup of tea I wasn't sure if he wanted to stay or not, so I checked the time and asked. He was up for another cup of tea and he went to get the second round. We put on our coats, picked up our empty cups, and headed towards the door. It seemed to be a lot of looking out of the corner of my eye to see if he was ready and trying to decide if he wanted me to wait for him to walk out. So I just waited and we went outside. I found the best way to break the awkwardness by telling him that I had a really nice time. He said, "Thanks" and that he had a great time, too. He also asked if he could email me or call to ask me out to lunch or to grab a drink. I said that I would definitely like that. He walked me to my car, which was also on the way back to his office since he was going to do some more work tonight, and smiled back at me as he walked away.
So I'm back in a position I've been in more times than I care to remember....waiting for the phone call or the email. I do think that it will happen. At first I was concerned with all of the awkwardness that he had just said that as his response to the awkwardness. But as I thought about it, and I have had this confirmed through others who thought the same thing, unprompted by me - it was too specific of him to ask about lunch or a drink that I am pretty sure that I will finally get my second date. Barring any random incidents of major injury, ex-girlfriends, or magically lost cell phones that is.
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