I've hit a whole new low in online dating with finding a new creature - the guy who likes to string women along with no intention of ever meeting them. Apparently they get off on knowing that we're sitting somewhere waiting for them and being upset.
Friday night the phone rang and I knew it was "med student guy". I was waiting for the cancellation, but he just asked if we could move it back to 9pm. I was fine with that so I went out for a couple drinks with friends before heading over to meet him at the bar we had picked out 2 1/2 weeks before when he had to cancel. So I got there a little early to get situated and waited. And waited...and waited. I called at 9:15pm to see if he had gotten lost but no answer. I didn't receive any response and by 9:45pm I gave in to the fact that I had been stood. The only benefit was a free beer and shot from my friends who were working that night. I went back over to where some of my other friends were hanging out to hopefully salvage something out of the night. It was pretty futile though as I was upset after weeks of build-up.
I woke up Saturday morning, rather depressed that I had been stood up, and emailed him through the Plentyoffish.com site. I wrote him around 9:30am with the subject line "You stood me up" with the body of the message consisting of "What the f*ck?" I then went back to bed as I was just emotionally exhausted. He wrote back around 9:45am to tell me that he was sincerely sorry, had fallen asleep, and totally understood if I never wanted to speak to him again. When I got up again around 10:45am, I received the message and went to write back, but noticed that his username was not showing up. I investigated what happened and it turns out that he deleted his account 10 minutes after he sent me his excuse as to why he stood me up.
Of course through this whole ordeal I had been updating my Facebook status and was completely embarrassed when my boss called Saturday morning as he was heading out for his week skiing in Aspen to make sure I was ok. I was heading to Costco, trying to do anything I could to get my mind off of "med student guy" since that was over now. I just didn't even want to talk about it. My boss and I both had the same idea that "med student guy" was, in reality, some weird online person who does this to lots of people.
The last thing I need to get through is tonight since "med student guy" had asked me to go to the Pitt/WVU basketball game, which I was really looking forward to. At least I can take solace in the fact that I'm not getting stood up tonight while waiting in front of the Pete with thousands of basketball fans heading to the game. That would have been more embarrassing than Friday.
So over the weekend I've worked very hard to get passed this. I winked at a bunch of guys on Match.com and 2 of them have written back. One already asked if I wanted to get coffee sometime this week. So I will write these guys back and see what happens. There is an offline prospect, "Super Bowl guy", but I think it's a very long shot based on our conversation - he had gotten out of a long term relationship and I was talking to someone else that I was really into (until he stood me up last Friday anyways). I had noticed "Super Bowl guy" a couple months prior to the game, but hadn't really had a chance to really converse with him until that night. Regardless, I'm not taking anything very seriously at this point in order to keep myself protected from another weekend like this. Especially since I'll be dealing with more pain come Friday and Saturday with Valentine's Day. I will spend a lot of time cursing at every Valentine's Day commercial on TV. However, I do hope something positive will pan out of the train wreck formerly known as "med student guy" with either "Super Bowl guy" or one of the new online prospects.
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