And things are still well with my "offline guy". We had a lot of fun times over the summer hanging out with friends, sitting on the porch in the evenings, and going camping. And we had our not so good moments with disagreements but managed to work through them. All in all, things have been good and there is more to come.
He's definitely not one to rush into major life things, most of the time anyways, but about a month and a half ago, the discussion turned from us having our own places next fall to us living together when my lease ends. We're both very excited about it and have already started looking for places with an August 1 open date. Especially since many of the areas we would want to live in rent to college students and these places start showing apartments in January. I'm hard to live with - I hope he knows what he's getting into!
We found one downtown that we really want to see, so as I'm waiting to hear back from my contact, I started watching season 2 of Tough Love that has been sitting on the DVR for the past month. When I found this show last year while I was writing about my online dating experiences, I watched to get some hints and tips for when I met people for the first time, especially since it's very important to make a great first impression. Especially in Pittsburgh with the limited dating pool for any woman over the age of 24.
Looking at the new season, I felt way ahead of the game when it came to meeting guys compared to the new cast. And while I know that I was lucky since "offline guy" and I had already been friends and I didn't have to worry about the first impression, I am still enthralled by the show and I think that there are still some really good tips in regard to personality differences and just keeping your sanity moving forward. And these tips can be applied to all relationships.
Back when stopped writing in June, I had initially intended to continue the blog with my experiences dating "offline guy". Of course, he would hate many details being posted because he is a private person compared to my typically open-to-the-public way of living. In hind site, I can continue this blog without too many specific details and hope that my experiences provide some help. And I can definitely write some commentary about what I'm seeing on Tough Love. I'm going to try to see where I can take this blog from here. Hopefully I will stop being so lax with my posting. We'll see I guess.
Saturday, December 12, 2009
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
It's Been Awhile...
It's been almost a month since I've written a post. I'm not purposefully slacking, just been busy hanging out with my boyfriend. Yes, we're using those terms now and it's pretty nice - definitely makes me smile.
And this whole month has been an adventure. There has been a lot of hockey watching and cheering for the Pens through the playoffs and into the Stanley Cup (after my Flyers lost to them, of course.) We've also spent a lot of time outside on the porch talking with friends we've had for awhile and making new friends in my neighborhood. We've had a couple fun nights in Bloomfield where he lives, and trips to Oakland. We've gone for countless drives in his car enjoying the afternoon or evening air and once to kill time until my car was done being worked on. Some of my other favorite activities were a friend's BBQ in North Park on Memorial Day weekend, going to Kennywood on Memorial Day, hanging out for my birthday (the actual day and the celebration the Saturday after), and recently a trip to McConnell's Mill to go hiking.
We're also planning a camping trip in July. So far we have 2 chairs and a bike rack that I'm carting around in my car. And this stuff to add to the fire to make it change different colors - that's my camping excitement. His is the survival kit that he's bringing. I think I like my entertaining camping thing better! We spent an evening putting together the list and figuring out what I can borrow from my mom and what he can borrow from his dad. We even planned the meals out. So we're all ready to go and just need to pick a weekend...and cut the grass at my cabin. Normally I would say that it would suck since I hate manual labor, but I have a feeling that I'll have fun doing it anyway since it's part of our camping trip. (Yes, we are camping at my cabin, which is more primitive than the nearby campgrounds, but the campgrounds don't allow alcohol.) A second camping trip to Cooks' Forest is also on the table as well along with a trip to T-Vegas with my roommate later this summer. And lastly, teaching me to drive a stick shift car since if anything ever happened on one of our trips and we're in his car, we're screwed because I can't drive stick.
So that's my update in a nutshell...lots of activities to keep busy over the summer and be happy enjoying each others company. The next steps is the meeting of the parents...but that is still in the planning process. We're better with the camping thing since he's still a little bit afraid my mom doesn't like him and I'm afraid that I'll be mad at his dad.
And this whole month has been an adventure. There has been a lot of hockey watching and cheering for the Pens through the playoffs and into the Stanley Cup (after my Flyers lost to them, of course.) We've also spent a lot of time outside on the porch talking with friends we've had for awhile and making new friends in my neighborhood. We've had a couple fun nights in Bloomfield where he lives, and trips to Oakland. We've gone for countless drives in his car enjoying the afternoon or evening air and once to kill time until my car was done being worked on. Some of my other favorite activities were a friend's BBQ in North Park on Memorial Day weekend, going to Kennywood on Memorial Day, hanging out for my birthday (the actual day and the celebration the Saturday after), and recently a trip to McConnell's Mill to go hiking.
We're also planning a camping trip in July. So far we have 2 chairs and a bike rack that I'm carting around in my car. And this stuff to add to the fire to make it change different colors - that's my camping excitement. His is the survival kit that he's bringing. I think I like my entertaining camping thing better! We spent an evening putting together the list and figuring out what I can borrow from my mom and what he can borrow from his dad. We even planned the meals out. So we're all ready to go and just need to pick a weekend...and cut the grass at my cabin. Normally I would say that it would suck since I hate manual labor, but I have a feeling that I'll have fun doing it anyway since it's part of our camping trip. (Yes, we are camping at my cabin, which is more primitive than the nearby campgrounds, but the campgrounds don't allow alcohol.) A second camping trip to Cooks' Forest is also on the table as well along with a trip to T-Vegas with my roommate later this summer. And lastly, teaching me to drive a stick shift car since if anything ever happened on one of our trips and we're in his car, we're screwed because I can't drive stick.
So that's my update in a nutshell...lots of activities to keep busy over the summer and be happy enjoying each others company. The next steps is the meeting of the parents...but that is still in the planning process. We're better with the camping thing since he's still a little bit afraid my mom doesn't like him and I'm afraid that I'll be mad at his dad.
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
Another Weekend, More New Stuff
I had another fun-filled weekend with my "offline guy". Friday he came with me to the opera. In the cab on the way home, he said that although he probably wouldn't go again since the opera really isn't his thing, he was happy that he was able to come with me to my first opera. Afterward, I changed and we went out to our favorite bar for a little while before meeting up with my friend, who is the PR manager of the opera, and hung out on my porch until the early morning hours.
After many hours of sleep on Saturday, when I was finally conscious again, "offline guy" and I watched a movie, went for a drive, and then spent the night in Bloomfield. I finally went to the Brillo Box, which was really cool. I loved the decor! After a couple drinks there, we headed over to his favorite Bloomfield bar and ran into some people we knew. "Offline guy" and I stayed there until it was time for the last bus back to Oakland. There was more hanging out on the porch - I added some amenities to the porch during the day Friday: an outdoor carpet, 2 glass and iron tables, and a big pot of geraniums. I now have an idyllic, urban paradise, which makes hanging out on the porch much more relaxing.
Sunday capped off the adventurous weekend with a trip to North Park. "Offline guy" and I went to the driving range and then to play miniature golf across the street. I actually did much better than I expected at the driving range. Most likely it was due to the driver that I had - it had this ugly pink paint on it so I must have made myself do well since I was already annoyed at the painted driver. However, my arm is very sore now. The miniature golf was even more fun than the driving range. The North Park course is really pretty and well landscaped. And they have a couple fountains, which always makes miniature golfing nicer. I'm a water person.
The second hole was the funniest part of the golf outing - it was a water hazard one so it had a ramp you had to hit the ball up. And you had to hit it hard enough to clear the water pit, but still land on the green on the other side. There's also a net on the other side, which caught my golf ball since it went over the water, on the green, and then bounced up. "Offline guy" went to take his turn and plop - into the water. He hit it into the water 2 more times until I suggested that he hit the ball a little harder. Then smack! The ball went up and over the water...and then hit the guardrail on the parking lot next door and started rolling through the parking lot. He ran up and got it while I sat down on the ground laughing. The look on his face was hysterical - he totally didn't expect the ball to launch into the parking lot. He tried one more time and made it over perfectly. And almost got a hole in one. Definitely the funniest moment of my weekend. It still makes me laugh.
AFter golf, we stopped at Monte Cello's to pick up a pizza for takeout and went back to my place. We watched a thing on the History Channel about the book/movie Angels and Demons and then "offline guy" went home. It was a great weekend and I had so much fun. I'm looking forward to this weekend and having more adventures with "offline guy". We're probably going to go miniature golfing again because it was just so much fun. Or bowling - that's the other thing we need to do, too. Is it Friday yet??
After many hours of sleep on Saturday, when I was finally conscious again, "offline guy" and I watched a movie, went for a drive, and then spent the night in Bloomfield. I finally went to the Brillo Box, which was really cool. I loved the decor! After a couple drinks there, we headed over to his favorite Bloomfield bar and ran into some people we knew. "Offline guy" and I stayed there until it was time for the last bus back to Oakland. There was more hanging out on the porch - I added some amenities to the porch during the day Friday: an outdoor carpet, 2 glass and iron tables, and a big pot of geraniums. I now have an idyllic, urban paradise, which makes hanging out on the porch much more relaxing.
Sunday capped off the adventurous weekend with a trip to North Park. "Offline guy" and I went to the driving range and then to play miniature golf across the street. I actually did much better than I expected at the driving range. Most likely it was due to the driver that I had - it had this ugly pink paint on it so I must have made myself do well since I was already annoyed at the painted driver. However, my arm is very sore now. The miniature golf was even more fun than the driving range. The North Park course is really pretty and well landscaped. And they have a couple fountains, which always makes miniature golfing nicer. I'm a water person.
The second hole was the funniest part of the golf outing - it was a water hazard one so it had a ramp you had to hit the ball up. And you had to hit it hard enough to clear the water pit, but still land on the green on the other side. There's also a net on the other side, which caught my golf ball since it went over the water, on the green, and then bounced up. "Offline guy" went to take his turn and plop - into the water. He hit it into the water 2 more times until I suggested that he hit the ball a little harder. Then smack! The ball went up and over the water...and then hit the guardrail on the parking lot next door and started rolling through the parking lot. He ran up and got it while I sat down on the ground laughing. The look on his face was hysterical - he totally didn't expect the ball to launch into the parking lot. He tried one more time and made it over perfectly. And almost got a hole in one. Definitely the funniest moment of my weekend. It still makes me laugh.
AFter golf, we stopped at Monte Cello's to pick up a pizza for takeout and went back to my place. We watched a thing on the History Channel about the book/movie Angels and Demons and then "offline guy" went home. It was a great weekend and I had so much fun. I'm looking forward to this weekend and having more adventures with "offline guy". We're probably going to go miniature golfing again because it was just so much fun. Or bowling - that's the other thing we need to do, too. Is it Friday yet??
Thursday, May 7, 2009
Lots of New Experiences
"Offline guy" and I had our first night out in Bloomfield last Friday. Also known as "Bloomfield night". Technically, it was Bloomfield and Lawrenceville night but that's just a little long. He picked me up around 8:45 and we left from his place to go to Kopec's in Lawrenceville to see his friend's band play. Unfortunately, it was raining, so we walked probably about a mile and a half to Kopec's in the rain. The way down wasn't too bad so we weren't incredibly soaked. We got there at the same time as his friend, so he helped unload the van while I watched the van for the band. The bar had $1.50 16oz Pabst so we got one and went to hang out on the back deck for a little while until his friend was on.
However, "offline guy" wasn't feeling well. He and I had gone out Tuesday night for a bit, but he wasn't feeling well then. He had to keep going outside for fresh air. I thought he might have the flu (not the swine flu even though we joked about that) that had been going around. That Tuesday, we ended up hanging out on my porch and he felt much better. The rest of the week he hadn't said anything about not feeling well so I thought he was ok. But after we got to the bar Friday night, it hit him again. So we ended up hanging out on the back deck the whole night despite the rain. The first band ended and we were hoping that his friend would go on so we could watch and leave, but no - some other band went second. We ended up just leaving to walk back and "offline guy" felt bad. He really wanted to see his friend play and for us to have a Bloomfield night out. We ended up stopping in Bloomfield on the way back (soaked mind you, because it poured the entire walk) to grab some beer and we spent the rest of the night just talking on his porch. He gave me a hoodie to change into because my wet clothes were a bit chilly. All in all it was a really good time regardless, but "offline guy" promised me a better Bloomfield night soon.
He ended up coming to a party at my house the next night. I was concerned about him not feeling well after Friday and initially he didn't, but he had heard of this old Indian herb that was supposed to make him feel better and it worked, which made me happy since he was able to hang out with everyone and have fun. We went out for the hockey game for a little bit Monday night and he felt completely fine. And when he's completely fine he's able to think about the things he should be thinking about. Such as on the walk back he just randomly told me to switch sides of the sidewalk with him. I was confused and asked why - his answer was because he wanted to walk on the outside because that's what guys are supposed to do. That was very sweet and unexpected since I've walked on many sidewalks in my day, with guys, and it never really occurred to me what side I was walking on.
I am really looking forward to tomorrow night though. "Offline guy" and I are going to the opera with a friend of mine. I'm looking forward to our first "dress-up" date. He told me that he was very excited to wear his suit - I didn't even have to recommend that he wear a suit. I've had my dress, shoes, and accessories picked out for about a week now. Many people reading this are probably shocked that I'm going to the opera on a Friday night, but I think this is a totally awesome idea that should be done more often, granting that I like the opera since I've never been to one. It's nice to be excited for the actual event for once, knowing that I'm already going to enjoy the guy that I'm spending time with instead of having to meet a new guy and worry about what he's going to be like. And the best part is getting to spend time with friends, too, with "offline guy". It will definitely be an experience!! :)
However, "offline guy" wasn't feeling well. He and I had gone out Tuesday night for a bit, but he wasn't feeling well then. He had to keep going outside for fresh air. I thought he might have the flu (not the swine flu even though we joked about that) that had been going around. That Tuesday, we ended up hanging out on my porch and he felt much better. The rest of the week he hadn't said anything about not feeling well so I thought he was ok. But after we got to the bar Friday night, it hit him again. So we ended up hanging out on the back deck the whole night despite the rain. The first band ended and we were hoping that his friend would go on so we could watch and leave, but no - some other band went second. We ended up just leaving to walk back and "offline guy" felt bad. He really wanted to see his friend play and for us to have a Bloomfield night out. We ended up stopping in Bloomfield on the way back (soaked mind you, because it poured the entire walk) to grab some beer and we spent the rest of the night just talking on his porch. He gave me a hoodie to change into because my wet clothes were a bit chilly. All in all it was a really good time regardless, but "offline guy" promised me a better Bloomfield night soon.
He ended up coming to a party at my house the next night. I was concerned about him not feeling well after Friday and initially he didn't, but he had heard of this old Indian herb that was supposed to make him feel better and it worked, which made me happy since he was able to hang out with everyone and have fun. We went out for the hockey game for a little bit Monday night and he felt completely fine. And when he's completely fine he's able to think about the things he should be thinking about. Such as on the walk back he just randomly told me to switch sides of the sidewalk with him. I was confused and asked why - his answer was because he wanted to walk on the outside because that's what guys are supposed to do. That was very sweet and unexpected since I've walked on many sidewalks in my day, with guys, and it never really occurred to me what side I was walking on.
I am really looking forward to tomorrow night though. "Offline guy" and I are going to the opera with a friend of mine. I'm looking forward to our first "dress-up" date. He told me that he was very excited to wear his suit - I didn't even have to recommend that he wear a suit. I've had my dress, shoes, and accessories picked out for about a week now. Many people reading this are probably shocked that I'm going to the opera on a Friday night, but I think this is a totally awesome idea that should be done more often, granting that I like the opera since I've never been to one. It's nice to be excited for the actual event for once, knowing that I'm already going to enjoy the guy that I'm spending time with instead of having to meet a new guy and worry about what he's going to be like. And the best part is getting to spend time with friends, too, with "offline guy". It will definitely be an experience!! :)
Monday, April 27, 2009
Trying to Catch Up
In the effort to get up to speed with the "offline guy" situation, I am going to do my best to summarize the past couple of weeks since I've been so busy. And honestly, I've just been busy because in addition to work and keeping up with life, I've spent lots of time with "offline guy".
Carnival weekend (April 16-18): "Offline guy" and I went out Wednesday night (4/15) for the Pens/Flyers playoff game. He's a Pens fan; I'm a Flyers fan. It was a fun series to watch with him. Thursday we slept in and he met up with me later at the bar near campus to meet a couple of my friends. We stopped at our Oakland bar on the way home for a game of darts and a couple drinks. While we were there, I was accosted twice by a guy that hangs out there fairly regularly. This guy can be a little angry about things, but I usually thought it was politics, religion, and sports. He walked up to me when "offline guy" was in the bathroom saying that "offline guy" and I were dating. Since we were trying to avoid all of the drama in the bar, I told the angry guy that "offline guy" and I were just friends and had been for 4 years. That went over all right the first time. But about an hour later when I was sitting at a table with "offline guy" and another friend, the angry guy came up again. Unfortunately, "offline guy" was in the bathroom (are you noticing a pattern?) and the angry guy said something about the dating thing. I repeated my previous response, expecting it to work, but it didn't. The angry guy threatened to yell some inappropriate comments in the middle of the bar, which would have completely embarrassed me. Fortunately, I managed to talk him out of it by telling him how inappropriate it was and the angry guy finally walked away. No much later, "offline guy" and I went back to hang out on my porch with a six pack.
We were up until about 4am, went to sleep, then got up for Buggy around 8:30am. He had never seen it, so we planned on going down for a bit. By the time we made it down there, it was around 10 or 10:30. We caught the last few races and met up with some of my friends. He and I went back to my house afterward and he headed home to nap and recoup. I was planning on the doing the same, but I ended up not napping. I headed over to Bloomfield to meet up with him for the hockey game that Friday night, and then we went to the Southside to see his roommate's band and then over to the bar where my friends were partying. After the party with my friends, we grabbed a six pack and a cab back to my house. I had told "offline guy" what transpired the previous night and we decided to avoid our hangout for the rest of the weekend.
Saturday was decidedly a day of sleeping after only getting 4 hours of sleep the night before. "Offline guy" eventually went back to his place and I got ready to head up to campus to meet some friends and catch the awards ceremony. "Offline guy" met up with my around 7:30 because this band he liked was supposed to be playing. However, we walked all around campus without finding them. So we went back to Midway and checked out the booths since many were shut down on Friday at about 12:30 when we had tried to check them out. We were on Midway for a little while before catching a bus to my friend's house in Point Breeze for his annual kickin' Carnival party. "Offline guy" and I hung out, he met even more of my college friends, had a couple jello shots, and played a game of beer pong. Since we had to leave to catch a bus after our beer pong game, we gave up the table and declared ourselves the undisputed beer pong champions of the night. Even though I still think that logic is rather flawed and probably resulted from the jello shots. After the party, he and I went to another bar in Oakland for a couple drinks and some darts, then back to my place.
The weekend wasn't even over yet. We got up to watch the Pens/Flyers game on Sunday - he ran home quickly and I went to the bar to save us seats. We were content thinking that the angry dude probably wouldn't be there on a Sunday. We hung out there for the game, then went to shoot pool. Pool is the only game we've played where we're pretty equal in skill. We ended up playing for awhile then went back to my place to sleep. It was definitely fun and I took him home Monday morning on the way to work. It was definitely a great weekend and it was hard to be at work after having fun with my friends all weekend and with "offline guy".
Last week, he came out on Tuesday and Thursday for the Pens/Flyers games. Tuesday we went to the bar and Thursday we stayed in - both were fun! Even more so when the Flyers won though (for me anyways.) Friday he met up with me at the bar and we hung out there for a couple hours until we headed back to my house to drink on the porch. Since it was Pitt's graduation weekend, there were tons of parties on my street - including my house where my roommate and our other friend had started a dance party. Our neighbors were also out on the porch so we continued to party it up for awhile.
Saturday was the Pens/Flyers game 6 so "offline guy" and I watched that. Afterward we headed to my friends' place in Squirrel Hill for a pre-summer get together, left for the Lawrenceville Arts Festival to hear "offline guy's" roommate's band play, back to the get-together, and down to our usual Oakland bar. We were there for a little while. Angry guy sat down next to me for a little while, but eventually moved away. Additionally, I did get a lovely surprise that I wasn't expecting - a very obvious kiss right on the lips while we were hanging out at the bar. Since "offline guy" and I had discussed keeping everything at our usual bar as under the radar as possible, there had definitely been no public displays of affection. However, that changed on Saturday and I'm waiting for the fallout from the other regular patrons that were there. Hopefully everyone else was too drunk and there were too many Pitt graduates there to continue keeping that under wraps.
So now everything's up to speed and hopefully I'll stop slacking with the posting. Especially since it's rather ironic that this blog started as an online dating guide, but I ended up with a guy that I've known for years who refused to ever get on Facebook (which of course, quickly changed.)
Lastly for technical reasons, Friday there was a discussion about the status of our situation. Here is the recap of that conversation:
He's not looking for anyone else and really misses me when we are apart. (So those text messages are 100% completely honest.)
I am not looking for anyone else and I like just about any activity much better with him around than without him around.
We are officially seeing each other and waiting to see what happens without all the pressure of rushing anything and screwing this up.
Carnival weekend (April 16-18): "Offline guy" and I went out Wednesday night (4/15) for the Pens/Flyers playoff game. He's a Pens fan; I'm a Flyers fan. It was a fun series to watch with him. Thursday we slept in and he met up with me later at the bar near campus to meet a couple of my friends. We stopped at our Oakland bar on the way home for a game of darts and a couple drinks. While we were there, I was accosted twice by a guy that hangs out there fairly regularly. This guy can be a little angry about things, but I usually thought it was politics, religion, and sports. He walked up to me when "offline guy" was in the bathroom saying that "offline guy" and I were dating. Since we were trying to avoid all of the drama in the bar, I told the angry guy that "offline guy" and I were just friends and had been for 4 years. That went over all right the first time. But about an hour later when I was sitting at a table with "offline guy" and another friend, the angry guy came up again. Unfortunately, "offline guy" was in the bathroom (are you noticing a pattern?) and the angry guy said something about the dating thing. I repeated my previous response, expecting it to work, but it didn't. The angry guy threatened to yell some inappropriate comments in the middle of the bar, which would have completely embarrassed me. Fortunately, I managed to talk him out of it by telling him how inappropriate it was and the angry guy finally walked away. No much later, "offline guy" and I went back to hang out on my porch with a six pack.
We were up until about 4am, went to sleep, then got up for Buggy around 8:30am. He had never seen it, so we planned on going down for a bit. By the time we made it down there, it was around 10 or 10:30. We caught the last few races and met up with some of my friends. He and I went back to my house afterward and he headed home to nap and recoup. I was planning on the doing the same, but I ended up not napping. I headed over to Bloomfield to meet up with him for the hockey game that Friday night, and then we went to the Southside to see his roommate's band and then over to the bar where my friends were partying. After the party with my friends, we grabbed a six pack and a cab back to my house. I had told "offline guy" what transpired the previous night and we decided to avoid our hangout for the rest of the weekend.
Saturday was decidedly a day of sleeping after only getting 4 hours of sleep the night before. "Offline guy" eventually went back to his place and I got ready to head up to campus to meet some friends and catch the awards ceremony. "Offline guy" met up with my around 7:30 because this band he liked was supposed to be playing. However, we walked all around campus without finding them. So we went back to Midway and checked out the booths since many were shut down on Friday at about 12:30 when we had tried to check them out. We were on Midway for a little while before catching a bus to my friend's house in Point Breeze for his annual kickin' Carnival party. "Offline guy" and I hung out, he met even more of my college friends, had a couple jello shots, and played a game of beer pong. Since we had to leave to catch a bus after our beer pong game, we gave up the table and declared ourselves the undisputed beer pong champions of the night. Even though I still think that logic is rather flawed and probably resulted from the jello shots. After the party, he and I went to another bar in Oakland for a couple drinks and some darts, then back to my place.
The weekend wasn't even over yet. We got up to watch the Pens/Flyers game on Sunday - he ran home quickly and I went to the bar to save us seats. We were content thinking that the angry dude probably wouldn't be there on a Sunday. We hung out there for the game, then went to shoot pool. Pool is the only game we've played where we're pretty equal in skill. We ended up playing for awhile then went back to my place to sleep. It was definitely fun and I took him home Monday morning on the way to work. It was definitely a great weekend and it was hard to be at work after having fun with my friends all weekend and with "offline guy".
Last week, he came out on Tuesday and Thursday for the Pens/Flyers games. Tuesday we went to the bar and Thursday we stayed in - both were fun! Even more so when the Flyers won though (for me anyways.) Friday he met up with me at the bar and we hung out there for a couple hours until we headed back to my house to drink on the porch. Since it was Pitt's graduation weekend, there were tons of parties on my street - including my house where my roommate and our other friend had started a dance party. Our neighbors were also out on the porch so we continued to party it up for awhile.
Saturday was the Pens/Flyers game 6 so "offline guy" and I watched that. Afterward we headed to my friends' place in Squirrel Hill for a pre-summer get together, left for the Lawrenceville Arts Festival to hear "offline guy's" roommate's band play, back to the get-together, and down to our usual Oakland bar. We were there for a little while. Angry guy sat down next to me for a little while, but eventually moved away. Additionally, I did get a lovely surprise that I wasn't expecting - a very obvious kiss right on the lips while we were hanging out at the bar. Since "offline guy" and I had discussed keeping everything at our usual bar as under the radar as possible, there had definitely been no public displays of affection. However, that changed on Saturday and I'm waiting for the fallout from the other regular patrons that were there. Hopefully everyone else was too drunk and there were too many Pitt graduates there to continue keeping that under wraps.
So now everything's up to speed and hopefully I'll stop slacking with the posting. Especially since it's rather ironic that this blog started as an online dating guide, but I ended up with a guy that I've known for years who refused to ever get on Facebook (which of course, quickly changed.)
Lastly for technical reasons, Friday there was a discussion about the status of our situation. Here is the recap of that conversation:
He's not looking for anyone else and really misses me when we are apart. (So those text messages are 100% completely honest.)
I am not looking for anyone else and I like just about any activity much better with him around than without him around.
We are officially seeing each other and waiting to see what happens without all the pressure of rushing anything and screwing this up.
Monday, April 20, 2009
Easter Weekend with Offline Guy
Since our office was closed on Good Friday, a bunch of co-workers went to happy hour. It was also a goodbye happy hour for the one guy who was starting a new job the following Monday. I invited "offline guy" since we were going to a bar that he and I both hadn't been to before. I was a bit freaked out because he was supposed to meet me there but I was running late. Fortunately, he got there after I did since I gave one of my coworkers a description of him, but she'd obviously never met him and it was very crowded.
"Offline guy" met the coworkers and seems to have passed that test. He also liked my coworkers and found them very fun and interesting - a good sign! We stayed for a couple drinks and then headed out to get some dinner. We ended up back at the bar we frequent and ended up hanging out with my roommate and some other friends. The rest of the night we hung out on the porch, enjoying an early start to the weekend.
The rest of the weekend we spent at our regular bar, hanging out and playing darts since it was pretty quiet because of the holiday. Sunday I went to my mom's house for Easter dinner and then he came over later to play NHL 06. It was fun! However, I haven't played video games in probably about 10 years, so I had to re-adjust to the new, fancy controllers. They're definitely more complicated than my old Nintendo controllers. Needless to say, I lost every NHL 06 game except one because he was trying to start a fight and not paying as much attention to defending my players. I guess that makes up for the fact that I won all of the dart games during the weekend.
Easter weekend with "offline guy" turned out to be very fun and it sucked when it had to end. However, I did have Carnival to look forward to that coming Thursday so it was a great distraction.
"Offline guy" met the coworkers and seems to have passed that test. He also liked my coworkers and found them very fun and interesting - a good sign! We stayed for a couple drinks and then headed out to get some dinner. We ended up back at the bar we frequent and ended up hanging out with my roommate and some other friends. The rest of the night we hung out on the porch, enjoying an early start to the weekend.
The rest of the weekend we spent at our regular bar, hanging out and playing darts since it was pretty quiet because of the holiday. Sunday I went to my mom's house for Easter dinner and then he came over later to play NHL 06. It was fun! However, I haven't played video games in probably about 10 years, so I had to re-adjust to the new, fancy controllers. They're definitely more complicated than my old Nintendo controllers. Needless to say, I lost every NHL 06 game except one because he was trying to start a fight and not paying as much attention to defending my players. I guess that makes up for the fact that I won all of the dart games during the weekend.
Easter weekend with "offline guy" turned out to be very fun and it sucked when it had to end. However, I did have Carnival to look forward to that coming Thursday so it was a great distraction.
Monday, April 13, 2009
It Was Definitely An Interesting Night
I met "med student guy" at 6:30 in Bloomfield. He was definitely flirty and we hung out for a bit. I had an ok time, but it was definitely weird hanging out with someone that I had looked forward to meeting and had such long conversations with, only to feel a little awkward around. He wasn't quite as cute as I had expected, but he had glasses and a hat on so I didn't get to see his eyes very well. He ended up heading home at 8 because he had to work overnight. He expected that I would be leaving with him, but I told him that a friend of mine (and the one bartender that "med student guy" also happened to know) was coming down later so I was going to stick around. "Med student guy" said that he wanted to hang out again and I said it would have to find out because I was pretty booked for awhile since I already had plans for the upcoming weekend with the offline guy and Carnival the weekend after, also plans that included my offline guy.
"Med student guy" was doing the same stuff as before though - saying that he had tickets for an upcoming Coldplay concert and asking that, even though it's over a month away, did I want to go with him? I tiptoed around the issue and said that I would have to see what my schedule was like. Besides, all the while that I spent hanging out with "med student guy", I was keeping watch for the door for the arrival of my offline guy. Fortunately for me, "med student guy" has gone back to his typical disappearing act. This makes it much easier for me to not have to avoid making future plans with "med student guy". It's finally done!
So I waited for my offline guy, who ended up running late because he missed one of the buses he needed to catch back from the South Hills. I stuck around talking to the bartenders and people watching. I was just about to leave when my offline guy showed up. He and I hung out for a drink at the bar I met "med student guy" in and then went to a couple other places in Bloomfield that he frequents. The first place he didn't really know anyone, but he did at the second bar. I'm glad I was dressed up from meeting "med student guy" earlier since I was definitely scrutinized by all of the people he knew at the other place that were wondering who the blonde girl was with "offline guy".
I ended up getting back home much later than expected since I ended up going to the other places with "offline guy" and having too much fun hanging out with him. But it was definitely worth it being tired the next day from hanging out with someone I enjoy spending time with.
"Med student guy" was doing the same stuff as before though - saying that he had tickets for an upcoming Coldplay concert and asking that, even though it's over a month away, did I want to go with him? I tiptoed around the issue and said that I would have to see what my schedule was like. Besides, all the while that I spent hanging out with "med student guy", I was keeping watch for the door for the arrival of my offline guy. Fortunately for me, "med student guy" has gone back to his typical disappearing act. This makes it much easier for me to not have to avoid making future plans with "med student guy". It's finally done!
So I waited for my offline guy, who ended up running late because he missed one of the buses he needed to catch back from the South Hills. I stuck around talking to the bartenders and people watching. I was just about to leave when my offline guy showed up. He and I hung out for a drink at the bar I met "med student guy" in and then went to a couple other places in Bloomfield that he frequents. The first place he didn't really know anyone, but he did at the second bar. I'm glad I was dressed up from meeting "med student guy" earlier since I was definitely scrutinized by all of the people he knew at the other place that were wondering who the blonde girl was with "offline guy".
I ended up getting back home much later than expected since I ended up going to the other places with "offline guy" and having too much fun hanging out with him. But it was definitely worth it being tired the next day from hanging out with someone I enjoy spending time with.
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