So after all of the excitement Saturday for "Nuclear engineer" guy to meet my friends, it didn't happen. When I called in the evening as the time approached for my friends Thanksgiving dinner party, the phone went straight to voicemail. I was a little disappointed because I really like "Nuclear engineer" guy but I wasn't mad about it. I'm sure something had to have happened for his phone not to be on and for him to not cancel plans. His phone was also still off when I tried calling Sunday evening, which is odd since we had talked about work and having to be accessible 24 hours a day. I did send him a message through Match.com to see if everything was ok since that's the only other way I know of to get a hold of him. But I am definitely keeping positive since he seemed really into me and there were many indicators throughout the evening for future dates - and dates plural and not just a second one.
I've come up with some theories for the disappearance of "Nuclear engineer" guy this weekend:
1. He was really sick all day after being drunk on Friday. I think he was probably drunker than he usually gets on weekends, so this is a definite possibility that he was sick the rest of the weekend.
2. He left his phone in his friend's car after his friend picked us up on the Southside. However, he didn't mention losing his cell phone when I drove him to his car Saturday afternoon. But he was really hungover so maybe he didn't realize it.
3. Something bad happened - maybe he got into an accident because he was so hungover. I'm really hoping this isn't the case.
4. He turned off his phone and doesn't plan on responding back to me because he's either embarrassed because he was drunk on Friday (which I would hope not because we've all been really drunk around someone we just met and liked before even though it wasn't planned) or I did or said something the next day that changed his mind. I would hope this isn't the case though because he really seemed to like me and be interested in dating me.
Also, following up concern: he thinks that I was mad about Saturday and will now not call me. I would also hope this isn't the case.
He and I spoke a number of times last Monday and on our date on Friday about being honest and not playing games, so I would think that he will respond back at some point. I would just like to hear from him soon and have it be something other than he changed his mind about dating me. I really enjoyed spending time with him and I would like to see him again. So I will stay positive for a few more days (if by this weekend I have not received any word from him, I will probably be upset) and think about what a wonderful time I had last Friday night.
Monday, November 24, 2008
Saturday, November 22, 2008
6th Time is a Charm?
I met "Nuclear engineer" guy last night on the Southside for drinks. I was definitely nervous and excited since I really liked talking to him through email and on the phone. I was pleasantly surprised that he looked just like his pictures. He really is very attractive...and not too pretty for me like I originally posted. We hung out at the Lava Lounge drinking whiskey for awhile until I felt the need to switch to beer. I didn't want to get really drunk since I really liked him.
We almost sang karaoke - even though I always refuse, it sounded like fun. But by the time we sifted through the tons of shitty music available in the book, karaoke ended. The 80's night music started not long after so we were enjoying that. I was pretty sure he liked me since there was definitely flirting going on. There was definite real discussion about his work, my work, and how we felt about a number of topics - and we were totally on the same page about what we felt about a lot of things. Things like politics, dating, Pittsburgh, religion, the country, overall social issues. I also thought it was completely adorable when he looked at me at one point and said, "do you know if we have kids, they are going to be really smart." I agree with that statement and if it was a line, it totally worked! But from our first encounter, I don't think it was a line.
We stayed at the Lava Lounge until around 11 when we headed over to his coworker's apartment on the Southside to go to a party they were having. So he really is a nuclear engineer. I met the coworkers - they were all really nice. We stayed until 1am when I called a cab. However, cabs apparently were rare on the Southside last night since aside from the fact we were on the Southside, it was also Light Up Night downtown. Which is an excuse to get drunk in the city for many people. Seeing as how the last bus back to Oakland is around 1am I think, we were pretty much stuck. We waited around for about an hour waiting for the cab that never showed up. Luckily, his friend was able to come pick us up. We would have driven but "Nuclear engineer" guy was a bit drunk - maybe I made him nervous? He did apologize quite a few times, but I've been the drunk person in similar situations before so it wasn't a big deal.
So "Nuclear engineer" guy's car is still sitting on the Southside. Me being me, I offered to take him back down to get it this morning and then we're hanging out this evening. We had talked about going out later tonight if neither of us thought the other sucked, so that's the plan. A friend of mine is having a Thanksgiving dinner party and he's coming as my date. I'm really looking forward to him meeting my friends! Finally, a good date that will have a second good date!!
We almost sang karaoke - even though I always refuse, it sounded like fun. But by the time we sifted through the tons of shitty music available in the book, karaoke ended. The 80's night music started not long after so we were enjoying that. I was pretty sure he liked me since there was definitely flirting going on. There was definite real discussion about his work, my work, and how we felt about a number of topics - and we were totally on the same page about what we felt about a lot of things. Things like politics, dating, Pittsburgh, religion, the country, overall social issues. I also thought it was completely adorable when he looked at me at one point and said, "do you know if we have kids, they are going to be really smart." I agree with that statement and if it was a line, it totally worked! But from our first encounter, I don't think it was a line.
We stayed at the Lava Lounge until around 11 when we headed over to his coworker's apartment on the Southside to go to a party they were having. So he really is a nuclear engineer. I met the coworkers - they were all really nice. We stayed until 1am when I called a cab. However, cabs apparently were rare on the Southside last night since aside from the fact we were on the Southside, it was also Light Up Night downtown. Which is an excuse to get drunk in the city for many people. Seeing as how the last bus back to Oakland is around 1am I think, we were pretty much stuck. We waited around for about an hour waiting for the cab that never showed up. Luckily, his friend was able to come pick us up. We would have driven but "Nuclear engineer" guy was a bit drunk - maybe I made him nervous? He did apologize quite a few times, but I've been the drunk person in similar situations before so it wasn't a big deal.
So "Nuclear engineer" guy's car is still sitting on the Southside. Me being me, I offered to take him back down to get it this morning and then we're hanging out this evening. We had talked about going out later tonight if neither of us thought the other sucked, so that's the plan. A friend of mine is having a Thanksgiving dinner party and he's coming as my date. I'm really looking forward to him meeting my friends! Finally, a good date that will have a second good date!!
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
Getting Back to Online Dating
I had to take approximately a month hiatus from online dating. Between a couple crazy football and beer filled weekends and moving to my new place, I haven't had the time or the Internet in order to really search for my next date.
I was emailing this guy from eHarmony who works in the family business designing signs for a while - "Design guy". Of course the move hindered any steady communication. Also, he has terrible spelling and grammar, which is a HUGE turnoff. I understand some typos, but it was one giant block of text any way too many instances where the proper tense was not used. I'm sure my grammatically correct friends' heads would have exploded reading these emails. He seemed nice enough, but I appreciate the effort to at least separate paragraphs with a line if you can't use the Tab key (email programs through web browsers - you can't use the tab key. Hence writing as I do with block paragraphs.) I might respond to his last email though because he seems like a nice guy.
I also checked out some Match profiles when I had some internet time. There were two guys in particular that I winked at. "New Attorney guy" and "Nuclear Engineer guy". I liked both of their profiles so I winked at both and both started writing me. "New Attorney guy" responded much faster so we exchanged a few emails and then started texting early last week. We had a bit in common and the text exchanges seemed positive. I met him last week and he was fairly attractive and very nice. However, I don't quite feel the chemistry. I did kiss him at the end of the night, but then again, that's not necessarily a definite second date since I have kissed many boys just once in my past and I don't always have an attachment after once kiss (contrary to popular belief.)
I believe I mentioned "Nuclear Engineer guy" previously - in his pictures he looks like he could be way too pretty. But I definitely find his pictures attractive. Unfortunately, this has been a long process because he had a lot of on-site business trips so communication was sporadic. We exchanged 2 emails and then he asked for my number in the third email. Of course I gave it to him and we spoke on the phone last Monday. We were making plans and I mentioned that I was busy Saturday with a friend's early Thanksgiving dinner party and then my friend's bar that has fried turkey. "Nuclear Engineer guy" apparently loves fried turkey (he told me) and I told him about the annual Thanksgiving dinner at the bar. I told him I would invite him but we had discussed in our emails meeting on neutral ground and since my friends would be at the bar, it wouldn't be neutral. He asked if my friends were mean to which I responded, "Not at all. In fact they're really nice!"
So we made plans to meet this Friday night somewhere neutral for a couple drinks. He said, "Well, when me meet if you don't suck and I don't suck, then maybe we can hang out on Saturday night, too." I agreed to that, so hopefully we won't think the other sucks. I did ask him to tell me if he's not interested and that I would tell him the same. He seemed to like the fact that I'm all about being honest and not playing games. So I'm definitely excited to meet him and see what happens.
So for right now, I am hoping for good things with "Nuclear Engineer guy" and putting "New Attorney guy" on hold pending Friday's results. If things don't go well I will probably give "New Attorney guy" a second chance and see if it's just me being skittish since I've never actually had a second date from Match. I'm also going to keep writing "Design guy" and this other guy "SEM guy" that I've been emailing on Match, too.
This online dating thing is getting exhausting so let's hope Friday goes well and I hangout with "Nuclear Engineer guy" on Saturday, too.
I was emailing this guy from eHarmony who works in the family business designing signs for a while - "Design guy". Of course the move hindered any steady communication. Also, he has terrible spelling and grammar, which is a HUGE turnoff. I understand some typos, but it was one giant block of text any way too many instances where the proper tense was not used. I'm sure my grammatically correct friends' heads would have exploded reading these emails. He seemed nice enough, but I appreciate the effort to at least separate paragraphs with a line if you can't use the Tab key (email programs through web browsers - you can't use the tab key. Hence writing as I do with block paragraphs.) I might respond to his last email though because he seems like a nice guy.
I also checked out some Match profiles when I had some internet time. There were two guys in particular that I winked at. "New Attorney guy" and "Nuclear Engineer guy". I liked both of their profiles so I winked at both and both started writing me. "New Attorney guy" responded much faster so we exchanged a few emails and then started texting early last week. We had a bit in common and the text exchanges seemed positive. I met him last week and he was fairly attractive and very nice. However, I don't quite feel the chemistry. I did kiss him at the end of the night, but then again, that's not necessarily a definite second date since I have kissed many boys just once in my past and I don't always have an attachment after once kiss (contrary to popular belief.)
I believe I mentioned "Nuclear Engineer guy" previously - in his pictures he looks like he could be way too pretty. But I definitely find his pictures attractive. Unfortunately, this has been a long process because he had a lot of on-site business trips so communication was sporadic. We exchanged 2 emails and then he asked for my number in the third email. Of course I gave it to him and we spoke on the phone last Monday. We were making plans and I mentioned that I was busy Saturday with a friend's early Thanksgiving dinner party and then my friend's bar that has fried turkey. "Nuclear Engineer guy" apparently loves fried turkey (he told me) and I told him about the annual Thanksgiving dinner at the bar. I told him I would invite him but we had discussed in our emails meeting on neutral ground and since my friends would be at the bar, it wouldn't be neutral. He asked if my friends were mean to which I responded, "Not at all. In fact they're really nice!"
So we made plans to meet this Friday night somewhere neutral for a couple drinks. He said, "Well, when me meet if you don't suck and I don't suck, then maybe we can hang out on Saturday night, too." I agreed to that, so hopefully we won't think the other sucks. I did ask him to tell me if he's not interested and that I would tell him the same. He seemed to like the fact that I'm all about being honest and not playing games. So I'm definitely excited to meet him and see what happens.
So for right now, I am hoping for good things with "Nuclear Engineer guy" and putting "New Attorney guy" on hold pending Friday's results. If things don't go well I will probably give "New Attorney guy" a second chance and see if it's just me being skittish since I've never actually had a second date from Match. I'm also going to keep writing "Design guy" and this other guy "SEM guy" that I've been emailing on Match, too.
This online dating thing is getting exhausting so let's hope Friday goes well and I hangout with "Nuclear Engineer guy" on Saturday, too.
Follow Up Regarding "CMU guy"
Actually, things are still good with his girlfriend (previously ex-girlfriend). It's good to hear though and we're going to keep in touch and be friends.
However, I really hope we're never Facebook friends since these notes import to my feed. Or I may just stop importing the notes if that happens. I doubt he would appreciate reading about himself as "CMU guy" and any initial feelings of anger and upsetness (yes, I am making that a word) that I had when he informed me that they got back together.
Here's a topic to discuss - social media: tasty treat or recipe for disaster?
However, I really hope we're never Facebook friends since these notes import to my feed. Or I may just stop importing the notes if that happens. I doubt he would appreciate reading about himself as "CMU guy" and any initial feelings of anger and upsetness (yes, I am making that a word) that I had when he informed me that they got back together.
Here's a topic to discuss - social media: tasty treat or recipe for disaster?
Thursday, November 6, 2008
Getting Back Together With an Ex = Bad Idea
Since I still don't have the internet, I used my lunch time to run a quick search on Match.com. I was going through pages of men and I came across "CMU guy" and he was active 2 weeks ago.
If you don't remember, "CMU guy" and I had a wonderful date and were going to have a second date until he got back together with his ex. So I totally wrote him a message on Match (I still have his number and maybe his personal email but I didn't want to put myself too much out there). I just said that I came across his profile, noticed he had been on a couple weeks ago, and said to drop a line if he would like to hang out again.
It would definitely be nice to hear from him - even if he's dating someone new I wouldn't mind being friends with him. Our date was a few months ago so I wouldn't be completely offended if it would just be friends.
This is why sex with the ex, as JN says, is a bad idea.
If you don't remember, "CMU guy" and I had a wonderful date and were going to have a second date until he got back together with his ex. So I totally wrote him a message on Match (I still have his number and maybe his personal email but I didn't want to put myself too much out there). I just said that I came across his profile, noticed he had been on a couple weeks ago, and said to drop a line if he would like to hang out again.
It would definitely be nice to hear from him - even if he's dating someone new I wouldn't mind being friends with him. Our date was a few months ago so I wouldn't be completely offended if it would just be friends.
This is why sex with the ex, as JN says, is a bad idea.
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
Online Dating Without the Internet?
Unfortunately I am out of commission in a way - I moved and there is no internet at home. Hopefully Saturday that will be corrected...I'll just need to figure out how to setup a network.
I stopped at my old place to finish up some things and grab the last of the big stuff, so I figured I would hop online and catch up with my messages while I had a chance. No responses yet. I emailed a one guy from eHarmony recently, but I am still waiting to hear back. I also received a wink and a message from a really cute guy on Match.com. Actually, I think this guy is too pretty - I might have an issue with that if I do end up meeting him and he really looks like his picture. But I of course wrote him back so now I'm waiting on that response, too. If I do hear back from him, I promise to come up with a better nickname for him than "Pretty guy", because that's just kinda of lame.
The only online dating aggravation that I encountered during my brief time on the internet was the "Who's Viewed Me" tab on the eHarmony page. This tab supposedly tells you who has looked at your profile and on what day for the past 2 weeks. I think this tab is broken. 2 days ago a guy named Guy looked at my profile - that could be true. But this tab is saying the 6 days ago, "Utah guy" looked at my profile. I highly doubt that "Utah guy" would look at my profile since we never went out a second time and he, in fact, canceled the plans to hang out a second time and never rescheduled. So I think I should email eHarmony to fix that tab because I would prefer an accurate record of who checked out my profile.
So I will post the update as soon as I have something to update...and when I have the internet...and after a long weekend of football. So hopefully sometime next week.
I stopped at my old place to finish up some things and grab the last of the big stuff, so I figured I would hop online and catch up with my messages while I had a chance. No responses yet. I emailed a one guy from eHarmony recently, but I am still waiting to hear back. I also received a wink and a message from a really cute guy on Match.com. Actually, I think this guy is too pretty - I might have an issue with that if I do end up meeting him and he really looks like his picture. But I of course wrote him back so now I'm waiting on that response, too. If I do hear back from him, I promise to come up with a better nickname for him than "Pretty guy", because that's just kinda of lame.
The only online dating aggravation that I encountered during my brief time on the internet was the "Who's Viewed Me" tab on the eHarmony page. This tab supposedly tells you who has looked at your profile and on what day for the past 2 weeks. I think this tab is broken. 2 days ago a guy named Guy looked at my profile - that could be true. But this tab is saying the 6 days ago, "Utah guy" looked at my profile. I highly doubt that "Utah guy" would look at my profile since we never went out a second time and he, in fact, canceled the plans to hang out a second time and never rescheduled. So I think I should email eHarmony to fix that tab because I would prefer an accurate record of who checked out my profile.
So I will post the update as soon as I have something to update...and when I have the internet...and after a long weekend of football. So hopefully sometime next week.
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