And the Phone Never Rang

There was no second date with "Nuclear engineer guy" and there's not going to be. He hasn't called, I was a bit depressed about it, and now it's 13 days since the first date. I know it's a bit ridiculous to be depressed about someone I only met once, but in this crazy world of online dating, attractive, smart guys that I click with are few and far between. Many friends have vocalized their confusion regarding the lack of a phone call after what was a fantastic date where I ended up meeting his coworkers. Unfortunately, I don't have any answers to that question since "Nuclear engineer guy", despite being 32, also lied about being honest if he wasn't interested since there has been no word.

And of course he has been online within 3 days, probably picking out his next target to have a great date with and never call. Not to be a bitch about it, but I hope he meets up with a crazy girl (again) who annoys the shit out of him when he doesn't call. He does deserve that. And a Cowboys loss to the Steelers on Sunday. I should have known better than to trust a Cowboys fan - what was I thinking?

So again I get to start all over...meeting guys that I'm not interested in or attracted to. And attraction is necessary for me. If I am going to meet someone online, they have to be attractive if I'm going to want to see them again. If I have to meet men this way in my 30s, I want the whole package. And I'm sure most readers will agree that I deserve the whole package after over 4 1/2 years of crap.

So after taking a week off in the hope that "Nuclear engineer guy" would call, I gave up and got back on Match and eHarmony. There's really not much out there and apparently Match wants me to date someone who is 5'9". All of my daily matches for the past 2 days have been 5'9". Is it really out of line to ask for at least a 6'0" tall guy? Really!?!

What was even worse was coming home last night, checking the Match email that runs and algorithm that sends back potential matches, and seeing "Nuclear engineer guy" on it. That was just another one of those cruel little jokes that Match likes to play on me. "Here's one! Oh, wait, no. You already struck out with that one. So here's a completely unattractive guy for you!" Stupid technology.

Even though I feel pretty beaten down and I don't really want to go out on another date for awhile, I got back online. I responded to an email from a guy that I had written back to because I was waiting to meet "Nuclear engineer guy" and then waiting for him to call. I also started taking to another guy, but he's unfortunately 5'8" and lives way out in the suburbs. I am against the suburbs, especially as far out as "Suburban guy" is. I have to take 2 highways to even get to the exit. Maybe that's why I started talking to him, knowing that I probably won't ever meet him. I've also gone back to hating all happy couples on some level because I've been single for almost half of a decade with very few dates. That's a long time. I've been on more dates now so I guess I shouldn't complain. But I'm going to...obviously.

If anyone knows of a cute, single guy - feel free to pass him along. Online dating is just as shitty as offline, so I might as well suffer in both arenas.