The Waiting Game

This is the part that I hate about dating. The waiting to see if you get a second date. Usually I have a pretty good idea whether someone that I meet is going to call. However, there have been times in the past where everything goes really well, but I never get a call.

That's my biggest fear right now. Monday went really well and now I have to wait. I know it's only been a few days, but I was hoping to get to see "CMU guy" this weekend. I did call and leave a message on Wednesday afternoon so I have used my "one free phone call" card. Therefore, I can't call anymore until a week from Sunday by my rules. I don't want to be the crazy girl who calls all the time after one date because no one seems to want to date that girl.

I'm trying to draw comfort that I made plans with friends to cover the weekend figuring that he probably won't be calling to make plans for tonight. Also, I'm pretty sure that he is interested and that he will call. My thinking is that he's out with the first year MBA students since he volunteered to help with orientation. Also, he's been gone all summer so there is always catching up with friends and getting your apartment in order for school to start.

However, on the flip side - I did meet him through Match.com so maybe he had some other dates and likes someone else more. Of course I have resorted to some minor "peace of mind" stalking. So I know that he hasn't been on Match.com since Monday. Of course, if he logs in and sees me "active within 24 hours" he might be wondering what it is that I'm up to. Hopefully he won't think that since I haven't written back to anyone other than "Rescue Me guy" to wish him good luck with his new girl. So it helps me to believe in the fact that he's busy with orientation, friends, and getting settled back into life in Pittsburgh. I have myself about 96% convinced of that scenario. Stupid 4%.

But this is the crazy girl thoughts that I knew were coming. I think I prepared myself for them this time. And I think that I'm coping with this waiting game pretty well since I am able to easily keep myself busy at work during the day and hanging out with friends and coworkers at night. If I only had a great ability to be patient and calm, this wouldn't be so bad. Sadly, guys don't seem to suffer through the same issues. Lucky bastards - they don't have this crazy period and they can pee standing up.

So if you see me out and about this weekend, I recommend buying me a drink. I may need it in order to keep myself under control thanks to that 4%. At least I have enough control to not call and won't have to place my cell phone in the care of friends this weekend to keep me from calling.