My First Time...

So I started getting the hang out of this searching thing. I did get an email from this guy, we'll call him "First guy", who I thought was a bit attractive in his pictures. We emailed a couple times and exchanged numbers while I was at the shore. He calls me the Monday after I'm back and we talked about just general stuff - football, tv, shows, friends...it was pretty nice. He asked if I would be interested in meeting in person, so I agreed. It was my first Match.com meet-up.

"First guy" actually turned out to be even more attractive than his online pictures. He was nice - bought me an iced cappuccino and we started talking. I found out about his job and chatted about his investments as well as just general talk about how long we have been on Match and people we've met. That was easy for me. "uhm, you're the first person I've actually met from Match.com".

I did enjoy talking to him, even though I was very nervous and did encounter moments of shyness. I hate when I have those moments - it tends to ruin things when I lose my ability to speak. Also, I did find out that it really is a fine line between cracking a facetious joke and someone being offended by said joke.

Sadly, I think "First guy" was offended. He seemed to have a lot of the same traits that I have - impatience, bad temper, a little obsessive compulsive...the only difference is that it felt like I was laughing things off (except once but I at least smiled while he hit my nerve!) while he was taking everything completely seriously. I actually had to use the phrase "lighten up" with him. When he first proposed meeting in person, he mentioned maybe going to get something to eat afterwards, and he added "if you like me". Well, apparently he definitely didn't feel the need to hang out later than an hour and 15 minutes. At 8:30 he was ready to head home and we went our separate ways.

I'm convinced that he either a.) was actually offended and is definitely not going to call me back or b.) thinks that I don't like him because I was cracking facetious jokes. It is doubtful that he will be calling me back anytime soon. I might try calling him once and leaving him a message just to say that it was nice to meet him and to apologize if my jokes offended him. I might just say it was nice to meet him and leave it at that. Who knows. Maybe I should stop being so polite all the time? Or maybe I just shouldn't get too comfortable with people and try to be funny. Apparently people don't like funny...

Moving on, during my meet-up with "First guy", the other guy who sounded interesting called me. He left a voicemail about possibly getting together tonight. After listening to it, I don't think he's really 36. He sounds 46 or 56. I might just meet him anyways to find out. Maybe he has a cold? I hope not because I was hoping for a better 2nd try at this meet-up thing. Sadly, I didn't get a chance to call him back until right after work tonight so I'm sure he was probably offended and felt like I was blowing him off. It really feels like guys are really lame and get offended at the simplest things.

Why is it that women are the brave ones? I always thought men were supposed to be brave, too. What happened to equality?