Trying to Catch Up

In the effort to get up to speed with the "offline guy" situation, I am going to do my best to summarize the past couple of weeks since I've been so busy. And honestly, I've just been busy because in addition to work and keeping up with life, I've spent lots of time with "offline guy".

Carnival weekend (April 16-18): "Offline guy" and I went out Wednesday night (4/15) for the Pens/Flyers playoff game. He's a Pens fan; I'm a Flyers fan. It was a fun series to watch with him. Thursday we slept in and he met up with me later at the bar near campus to meet a couple of my friends. We stopped at our Oakland bar on the way home for a game of darts and a couple drinks. While we were there, I was accosted twice by a guy that hangs out there fairly regularly. This guy can be a little angry about things, but I usually thought it was politics, religion, and sports. He walked up to me when "offline guy" was in the bathroom saying that "offline guy" and I were dating. Since we were trying to avoid all of the drama in the bar, I told the angry guy that "offline guy" and I were just friends and had been for 4 years. That went over all right the first time. But about an hour later when I was sitting at a table with "offline guy" and another friend, the angry guy came up again. Unfortunately, "offline guy" was in the bathroom (are you noticing a pattern?) and the angry guy said something about the dating thing. I repeated my previous response, expecting it to work, but it didn't. The angry guy threatened to yell some inappropriate comments in the middle of the bar, which would have completely embarrassed me. Fortunately, I managed to talk him out of it by telling him how inappropriate it was and the angry guy finally walked away. No much later, "offline guy" and I went back to hang out on my porch with a six pack.

We were up until about 4am, went to sleep, then got up for Buggy around 8:30am. He had never seen it, so we planned on going down for a bit. By the time we made it down there, it was around 10 or 10:30. We caught the last few races and met up with some of my friends. He and I went back to my house afterward and he headed home to nap and recoup. I was planning on the doing the same, but I ended up not napping. I headed over to Bloomfield to meet up with him for the hockey game that Friday night, and then we went to the Southside to see his roommate's band and then over to the bar where my friends were partying. After the party with my friends, we grabbed a six pack and a cab back to my house. I had told "offline guy" what transpired the previous night and we decided to avoid our hangout for the rest of the weekend.

Saturday was decidedly a day of sleeping after only getting 4 hours of sleep the night before. "Offline guy" eventually went back to his place and I got ready to head up to campus to meet some friends and catch the awards ceremony. "Offline guy" met up with my around 7:30 because this band he liked was supposed to be playing. However, we walked all around campus without finding them. So we went back to Midway and checked out the booths since many were shut down on Friday at about 12:30 when we had tried to check them out. We were on Midway for a little while before catching a bus to my friend's house in Point Breeze for his annual kickin' Carnival party. "Offline guy" and I hung out, he met even more of my college friends, had a couple jello shots, and played a game of beer pong. Since we had to leave to catch a bus after our beer pong game, we gave up the table and declared ourselves the undisputed beer pong champions of the night. Even though I still think that logic is rather flawed and probably resulted from the jello shots. After the party, he and I went to another bar in Oakland for a couple drinks and some darts, then back to my place.

The weekend wasn't even over yet. We got up to watch the Pens/Flyers game on Sunday - he ran home quickly and I went to the bar to save us seats. We were content thinking that the angry dude probably wouldn't be there on a Sunday. We hung out there for the game, then went to shoot pool. Pool is the only game we've played where we're pretty equal in skill. We ended up playing for awhile then went back to my place to sleep. It was definitely fun and I took him home Monday morning on the way to work. It was definitely a great weekend and it was hard to be at work after having fun with my friends all weekend and with "offline guy".

Last week, he came out on Tuesday and Thursday for the Pens/Flyers games. Tuesday we went to the bar and Thursday we stayed in - both were fun! Even more so when the Flyers won though (for me anyways.) Friday he met up with me at the bar and we hung out there for a couple hours until we headed back to my house to drink on the porch. Since it was Pitt's graduation weekend, there were tons of parties on my street - including my house where my roommate and our other friend had started a dance party. Our neighbors were also out on the porch so we continued to party it up for awhile.

Saturday was the Pens/Flyers game 6 so "offline guy" and I watched that. Afterward we headed to my friends' place in Squirrel Hill for a pre-summer get together, left for the Lawrenceville Arts Festival to hear "offline guy's" roommate's band play, back to the get-together, and down to our usual Oakland bar. We were there for a little while. Angry guy sat down next to me for a little while, but eventually moved away. Additionally, I did get a lovely surprise that I wasn't expecting - a very obvious kiss right on the lips while we were hanging out at the bar. Since "offline guy" and I had discussed keeping everything at our usual bar as under the radar as possible, there had definitely been no public displays of affection. However, that changed on Saturday and I'm waiting for the fallout from the other regular patrons that were there. Hopefully everyone else was too drunk and there were too many Pitt graduates there to continue keeping that under wraps.

So now everything's up to speed and hopefully I'll stop slacking with the posting. Especially since it's rather ironic that this blog started as an online dating guide, but I ended up with a guy that I've known for years who refused to ever get on Facebook (which of course, quickly changed.)

Lastly for technical reasons, Friday there was a discussion about the status of our situation. Here is the recap of that conversation:

He's not looking for anyone else and really misses me when we are apart. (So those text messages are 100% completely honest.)
I am not looking for anyone else and I like just about any activity much better with him around than without him around.
We are officially seeing each other and waiting to see what happens without all the pressure of rushing anything and screwing this up.