I'm In The Game For a Minute...Then I Get Benched. Again.

I met up with "Beaver county guy" Saturday night, looking incredibly cute. We had a few drinks and watched the end of the Arizona/Atlanta game and then watched the Indy/San Diego game. (The games I'm referring to were the NFL Wildcard games from last Saturday.)

I thought it started ok initially. He was cute - looked a little bit like Kevin James, just not so chubby, and conversation came easily. However, it started feeling weird towards end, such as when he all of a sudden became tired and was ready to go home immediately after the football game. He actually seemed a little put off because it went into overtime. So I met up with my friends afterward and texted him during the Miami/Baltimore game the next day (again, NFL Wildcard for you non-football people out there.) There were a couple text messages exchanged before he finally owned up to the fact that he didn't think there was any chemistry between us and he asked me not to be mad.

Honestly, I wasn't mad at all. I still wanted to meet the "British guy" and I'm trying to get beyond irrational emotions from someone that I barely know. That's for my own emotional protection. At least he didn't do what "Nuclear engineer guy" did to me. I told "Beaver county guy" that I appreciated the honesty, thanked him for letting me know, and wished him good luck.

The only thing that I'm mad about is the fact that if I wouldn't have texted him a couple times about the Miami/Baltimore game, he may never have said anything to me. It's really the one thing that I request is honesty. Men need to stop being afraid to just say that they're not interested. I don't know what kind of crazy chicks they have dated in the past that scarred them so much that they think that it's appropriate to just not call. Men need to get over it. Women need men to be honest when they're not interested and when they are because it would work out better in the end for all of us.

Here's an example as to why honestly in a necessity - a guy doesn't call you for one of two reasons:
1. He's not interested.
2. He's interested but afraid of rejection.

So either way, no phone call. Then we have to call and I have actually had men who weren't interested make plans with me and just not show up. At least one time the guy did cancel the plans, but it's really crappy to be stood up waiting in a public place. As a result of that, I didn't call the next guy and later found out that the guy was waiting for me to call because he was afraid that I wasn't interested. Make up your minds! If we can't have an addendum added to the man manual stipulating whether "no call" means "interested" or "not interested", can you just call or text us to let us know? It would really be appreciated. You can even make it simple and just say "interested" or "not interested" and I can get the conversation moving from there.

By the way, texting provides a great way to say you're not interested without having to take the chance that we'll be angry and yell at you. Especially since we can take a minute and think without being put on the spot.

Moving forward, I am hoping to hear from "British guy". He mentioned the possibility of getting together after the first of the year, but he didn't write back after last week. I expected an email over the weekend, but maybe he saw the additional pictures that I uploaded and decided that he didn't think I was pretty. If that was the case, again, it would have been nice to get an email that says either "interested" or "not interested". Until I am convinced that men have learned how to be honest with me, which will probably be about the time Satan gets into a snowball fight, I have decided to hedge my bets.

There was a cute law student who winked at me about a week ago. So I winked back. I already got an email from him so I wrote him back at the beginning of my lunch break today and I will, for the time being, call him "Law school guy". It's appropriate. Also, I winked at an additional 44 men yesterday evening. I have gotten a couple guys who said that they weren't interested as I did receive the automated email. I am very proud of those men for letting me know because I can quickly remove them from the compiled list of prospects on Match.com. I did also hear back from "SEO guy". This guy was actually impressed that I do SEO/SEM for a living. He's a computer programmer and does some SEO on the side. He actually wrote me through Facebook since his membership expired. We've already emailed back and forth a couple times last night until it was time for me to go to bed. So I also responded to him earlier in my lunch break.

Let's hope that I can get more in the way of honesty moving forward since it's a new year.