Last Christmas Eve, I received two emails. A response from "British guy" and a new email from "Beaver county guy". I haven't heard anything from "Picky guy" since he sent me an email saying that he was busy with family stuff and making the job decision and hasn't been online. He's been online - it says so in his Match.com profile. If he gets in touch that's cool, if not then I might have dodged a bullet (a/k/a another engineer.)
"Beaver county guy" actually wrote to me first on Christmas Eve. I had sent him an email a few weeks previously - I believe it was the same time that I came across "British guy's" profile. Apparently "Beaver county guy" had let his membership to Match.com expire but he signed up for another month to read my email after he saw my profile. That was flattering. I actually had emailed him instead of just winking at him initially because I really identified with a lot of the stuff he had in his profile. So I wrote him back on Christmas Eve and received a response on Saturday. I responded to that email last night and this morning there was an email from him in my inbox.
However, I have been talking to "British guy" longer and am really looking forward to meeting him in person. I waited until Friday to write back to him since I always wrote back so quickly. I figured it was best to wait a couple days. He did ask me for more pictures, which I couldn't attach and now they are added to my profile. Fortunately there were some good recent pictures of me that I was able to upload so hopefully he'll think they're good, too. I did forget to wish him a Happy Boxing Day, but maybe that's best. I don't want him thinking that I'm some giant Anglophile (which I am) who is more concerned with his accent than his personality (which I'm not.) We continued our talk about sports, holiday plans, people we have met in our offline worlds, and work. "British guy" did put it out there that maybe after the New Year is over and things aren't so crazy with short work weeks that maybe we should get together.
Is it Thursday yet?!?! Can it be after the New Year now? I would really like to meet this guy and see what happens. Also, too, because if things go well, I'll have to figure out what to do with "Beaver county guy" because I don't want to date two people at once. And if things don't go well, then I would like to still be talking to "Beaver county guy". I'm also trying to keep this as a first in first out operations process. Seeing as how I've been talking to "British guy" longer than "Beaver county guy", I think it's only fair to meet "British guy" first and see how that goes. However, "Beaver county guy" responds much faster and mentioned in his most recent email that he is better with his wit and sarcasm face to face, so I have a feeling that he would be more apt to schedule a time to meet before "British guy" does. I think my best bet is to meet "British guy" first, see what happens, and if "Beaver county guy" wants to get together, I will have to say that I'm really busy early in January and try to schedule something for later in the month.
So the process continues of the email discussions and me stalking my inbox, waiting to hear back from "British guy" and "Beaver county guy".
Monday, December 29, 2008
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
Continuing With My Online Communication
It's been a crazy week of writing emails or IMs and waiting...then repeat. Here are my updates:
"Picky guy" and I had a lovely IM conversation Tuesday night after I got back from the last girls' poker night of the year. In fact, I was up until 1am talking to him. And then he wasn't online the rest of the week. He finally wrote to me on Saturday, saying that he hadn't been online the rest of the week as he had been spending time with family and doing a lot of thinking in regard to making decisions about his career and potential job opportunities. "Picky guy" said that he would drop me a line when he had time. So I've been waiting since then. He was online Monday evening, but never sent me a message. I didn't want to IM him in case he was busy, so I am just waiting for him to get in touch with me.
I've also been emailing the "British guy". We've been having great email conversations talking about where he lived, his job, Bulgaria, sports, and a whole bunch of other things. It's definitely fascinating talking to someone who is from and lived in Europe. Of course, knowing me I'll get myself into trouble - foreigners are tricky! I did give him my number in the last email so we'll see if he calls. I said I wasn't opposed to continuing our email conversation if he was ready for the phone stage. However, I'm rather hoping that he calls. I would like to meet him and see if I'm really interested. And I would like to do that before the New Year, since I will have to renew my Match.com subscription towards the end of January.
I was trying to get the 6 months free since I'm still ridiculously single. Unfortunately, I didn't realize that I hadn't hit all of the email limits during a couple of months because I was only emailing people who wrote me or people that I was really interested in. I don't think it's cool to email someone that you're not interested in just to hit that limit. Oh well. At least I'm not going to waste anymore money on eHarmony. That site is a piece of shit. I met one guy who was short. That was it. Everyone else I saw on their were either not attractive, not interested in me, or not interesting period. Or they were from other states or countries! It is 100% a waste of money and I do not recommend it.
"Picky guy" and I had a lovely IM conversation Tuesday night after I got back from the last girls' poker night of the year. In fact, I was up until 1am talking to him. And then he wasn't online the rest of the week. He finally wrote to me on Saturday, saying that he hadn't been online the rest of the week as he had been spending time with family and doing a lot of thinking in regard to making decisions about his career and potential job opportunities. "Picky guy" said that he would drop me a line when he had time. So I've been waiting since then. He was online Monday evening, but never sent me a message. I didn't want to IM him in case he was busy, so I am just waiting for him to get in touch with me.
I've also been emailing the "British guy". We've been having great email conversations talking about where he lived, his job, Bulgaria, sports, and a whole bunch of other things. It's definitely fascinating talking to someone who is from and lived in Europe. Of course, knowing me I'll get myself into trouble - foreigners are tricky! I did give him my number in the last email so we'll see if he calls. I said I wasn't opposed to continuing our email conversation if he was ready for the phone stage. However, I'm rather hoping that he calls. I would like to meet him and see if I'm really interested. And I would like to do that before the New Year, since I will have to renew my Match.com subscription towards the end of January.
I was trying to get the 6 months free since I'm still ridiculously single. Unfortunately, I didn't realize that I hadn't hit all of the email limits during a couple of months because I was only emailing people who wrote me or people that I was really interested in. I don't think it's cool to email someone that you're not interested in just to hit that limit. Oh well. At least I'm not going to waste anymore money on eHarmony. That site is a piece of shit. I met one guy who was short. That was it. Everyone else I saw on their were either not attractive, not interested in me, or not interesting period. Or they were from other states or countries! It is 100% a waste of money and I do not recommend it.
Sunday, December 7, 2008
Moving On To New Prospects
In the attempts to keep my hopes up that there is someone that I will have a second date with, I have been very active on Match this weekend. That and my internet is working, allowing me to get online.
I wrote back to "Suburban guy" but I haven't heard anything since last Wednesday. He wrote back pretty quickly previously, but maybe that line where I said that I don't trust anyone who doesn't like football was a bit too much for him to handle. That's ok though. He's short and lives far away.
But I have gotten some responses this weekend. An email from the "British guy" I winked at last weekend, winks from "San Diego guy" and "Faux-hawk guy", and an instant message from "Picky guy" this evening that led to a 2 hour conversation over IM. "Picky guy" lives a bit far away and initially I was skeptical since he didn't have a picture on Match. I started talking to him on AIM and he sent over a picture. Very good looking - he looked a little bit like Leonardo DiCaprio in the one picture. I asked him why he wouldn't put a picture up, especially since he's attractive. His response was that he had a picture up in the past and got a lot of interest from people who weren't interested in him for the right reasons. He actually dated a girl for 2 years that he met on Match so that's a positive sign that he's looking for a relationship and not a quick hook up.
"Picky guy's" profile has a lot of details about what he's looking for in his profile and if I had been doing a search, I wouldn't have winked since he has no picture and all these requirements. For instance, he wants someone with their own place, minimal debt, neat freak, and his ideal match is someone who is a successful designer. I have a roommate, some credit card debt that I will probably be paying off for a long time, I can be lazy and not clean for days, and I'm in marketing. He also loves living way out in the suburbs (I don't even really consider it suburbs since he's almost all the way out in Natrona Heights, which is a very long drive) and doesn't like the city. I plan on being in the city until I have kids and I want to raise them somewhere where they have a big yard to play in and good schools. "Picky guy" also went to WVU and although my undergrad is CMU, my MBA and a bunch of my friends went to Pitt, so I follow the Pitt sports hardcore. So we are college sports rivals.
I definitely think it was cool that he contacted me and we had a good 2 hour conversation. It would be nice to meet someone where there is a possibility of dating. And he's 6'5", which is much better than the hordes of 5'7" or 5'8" tall guys on the online dating scene. The only downside will be if I end up liking him and it's not reciprocated. I have zero ability to protect my feelings when I like someone and I'm really tired of getting my hopes up and then getting hurt. It's starting to get annoying. We'll have to see what happens - I'm going to try to not get my hopes up too much.
I wrote back to "Suburban guy" but I haven't heard anything since last Wednesday. He wrote back pretty quickly previously, but maybe that line where I said that I don't trust anyone who doesn't like football was a bit too much for him to handle. That's ok though. He's short and lives far away.
But I have gotten some responses this weekend. An email from the "British guy" I winked at last weekend, winks from "San Diego guy" and "Faux-hawk guy", and an instant message from "Picky guy" this evening that led to a 2 hour conversation over IM. "Picky guy" lives a bit far away and initially I was skeptical since he didn't have a picture on Match. I started talking to him on AIM and he sent over a picture. Very good looking - he looked a little bit like Leonardo DiCaprio in the one picture. I asked him why he wouldn't put a picture up, especially since he's attractive. His response was that he had a picture up in the past and got a lot of interest from people who weren't interested in him for the right reasons. He actually dated a girl for 2 years that he met on Match so that's a positive sign that he's looking for a relationship and not a quick hook up.
"Picky guy's" profile has a lot of details about what he's looking for in his profile and if I had been doing a search, I wouldn't have winked since he has no picture and all these requirements. For instance, he wants someone with their own place, minimal debt, neat freak, and his ideal match is someone who is a successful designer. I have a roommate, some credit card debt that I will probably be paying off for a long time, I can be lazy and not clean for days, and I'm in marketing. He also loves living way out in the suburbs (I don't even really consider it suburbs since he's almost all the way out in Natrona Heights, which is a very long drive) and doesn't like the city. I plan on being in the city until I have kids and I want to raise them somewhere where they have a big yard to play in and good schools. "Picky guy" also went to WVU and although my undergrad is CMU, my MBA and a bunch of my friends went to Pitt, so I follow the Pitt sports hardcore. So we are college sports rivals.
I definitely think it was cool that he contacted me and we had a good 2 hour conversation. It would be nice to meet someone where there is a possibility of dating. And he's 6'5", which is much better than the hordes of 5'7" or 5'8" tall guys on the online dating scene. The only downside will be if I end up liking him and it's not reciprocated. I have zero ability to protect my feelings when I like someone and I'm really tired of getting my hopes up and then getting hurt. It's starting to get annoying. We'll have to see what happens - I'm going to try to not get my hopes up too much.
Thursday, December 4, 2008
And the Phone Never Rang
There was no second date with "Nuclear engineer guy" and there's not going to be. He hasn't called, I was a bit depressed about it, and now it's 13 days since the first date. I know it's a bit ridiculous to be depressed about someone I only met once, but in this crazy world of online dating, attractive, smart guys that I click with are few and far between. Many friends have vocalized their confusion regarding the lack of a phone call after what was a fantastic date where I ended up meeting his coworkers. Unfortunately, I don't have any answers to that question since "Nuclear engineer guy", despite being 32, also lied about being honest if he wasn't interested since there has been no word.
And of course he has been online within 3 days, probably picking out his next target to have a great date with and never call. Not to be a bitch about it, but I hope he meets up with a crazy girl (again) who annoys the shit out of him when he doesn't call. He does deserve that. And a Cowboys loss to the Steelers on Sunday. I should have known better than to trust a Cowboys fan - what was I thinking?
So again I get to start all over...meeting guys that I'm not interested in or attracted to. And attraction is necessary for me. If I am going to meet someone online, they have to be attractive if I'm going to want to see them again. If I have to meet men this way in my 30s, I want the whole package. And I'm sure most readers will agree that I deserve the whole package after over 4 1/2 years of crap.
So after taking a week off in the hope that "Nuclear engineer guy" would call, I gave up and got back on Match and eHarmony. There's really not much out there and apparently Match wants me to date someone who is 5'9". All of my daily matches for the past 2 days have been 5'9". Is it really out of line to ask for at least a 6'0" tall guy? Really!?!
What was even worse was coming home last night, checking the Match email that runs and algorithm that sends back potential matches, and seeing "Nuclear engineer guy" on it. That was just another one of those cruel little jokes that Match likes to play on me. "Here's one! Oh, wait, no. You already struck out with that one. So here's a completely unattractive guy for you!" Stupid technology.
Even though I feel pretty beaten down and I don't really want to go out on another date for awhile, I got back online. I responded to an email from a guy that I had written back to because I was waiting to meet "Nuclear engineer guy" and then waiting for him to call. I also started taking to another guy, but he's unfortunately 5'8" and lives way out in the suburbs. I am against the suburbs, especially as far out as "Suburban guy" is. I have to take 2 highways to even get to the exit. Maybe that's why I started talking to him, knowing that I probably won't ever meet him. I've also gone back to hating all happy couples on some level because I've been single for almost half of a decade with very few dates. That's a long time. I've been on more dates now so I guess I shouldn't complain. But I'm going to...obviously.
If anyone knows of a cute, single guy - feel free to pass him along. Online dating is just as shitty as offline, so I might as well suffer in both arenas.
And of course he has been online within 3 days, probably picking out his next target to have a great date with and never call. Not to be a bitch about it, but I hope he meets up with a crazy girl (again) who annoys the shit out of him when he doesn't call. He does deserve that. And a Cowboys loss to the Steelers on Sunday. I should have known better than to trust a Cowboys fan - what was I thinking?
So again I get to start all over...meeting guys that I'm not interested in or attracted to. And attraction is necessary for me. If I am going to meet someone online, they have to be attractive if I'm going to want to see them again. If I have to meet men this way in my 30s, I want the whole package. And I'm sure most readers will agree that I deserve the whole package after over 4 1/2 years of crap.
So after taking a week off in the hope that "Nuclear engineer guy" would call, I gave up and got back on Match and eHarmony. There's really not much out there and apparently Match wants me to date someone who is 5'9". All of my daily matches for the past 2 days have been 5'9". Is it really out of line to ask for at least a 6'0" tall guy? Really!?!
What was even worse was coming home last night, checking the Match email that runs and algorithm that sends back potential matches, and seeing "Nuclear engineer guy" on it. That was just another one of those cruel little jokes that Match likes to play on me. "Here's one! Oh, wait, no. You already struck out with that one. So here's a completely unattractive guy for you!" Stupid technology.
Even though I feel pretty beaten down and I don't really want to go out on another date for awhile, I got back online. I responded to an email from a guy that I had written back to because I was waiting to meet "Nuclear engineer guy" and then waiting for him to call. I also started taking to another guy, but he's unfortunately 5'8" and lives way out in the suburbs. I am against the suburbs, especially as far out as "Suburban guy" is. I have to take 2 highways to even get to the exit. Maybe that's why I started talking to him, knowing that I probably won't ever meet him. I've also gone back to hating all happy couples on some level because I've been single for almost half of a decade with very few dates. That's a long time. I've been on more dates now so I guess I shouldn't complain. But I'm going to...obviously.
If anyone knows of a cute, single guy - feel free to pass him along. Online dating is just as shitty as offline, so I might as well suffer in both arenas.
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