Follow Up: "The Nerve of Some People"

I tried not to write back - I'm not interested in "med student guy" anymore after he stood me up a couple times and never really gave me any explanations. However, I couldn't resist writing him back to say that there was no reason he should be writing me after standing me up. Especially since I did write him back regarding how he could make it up to me back in February. Essentially, I told him that if he wanted to make it up to me, I would agree to meet one last time. It would have to be somewhere nice and he would have to make reservations. He never responded. Why he waited until now I don't know. And it's not like he's going to give me any answers. After many texts saying that he really did fall asleep and that he's not married and never has been, and asking repeatedly to make it up to me, I finally told him that I would think about it. I figured it was the easiest way to get out of this text conversation since I had plans Saturday evening. "Med student guy" texted me again Sunday afternoon asking again if I would give him another chance to make it up to me.

Now, there are a number of things I can do and I'm trying to figure out which would be the most fun for me:

1. Just say no. Nancy Reagan may have had it right in the 80's. This is the easiest way to go.

2. Say yes, make plans, and then not show it up. Very bitchy, but it would nice knowing (or at least hoping) that he would know what it feels like.

3. Say yes, make plans, show up, and tell him that I'm not interested anymore. This is slightly less bitchy, I think, and I would get to know what he really looks like. Then again, he could totally be lying about who he really is. I dodged a bullet with "Romanian guy" and maybe I should make sure that I don't willing walk in front of a bullet. However, I would know what he looks like for real, and then I would who to stay away from.

It's really a tough call. I'm leaning toward option #1. I'm looking for reader input on this - what would you do in my situation? I am open to other suggestions.

In other news, I'm meeting "teacher guy" on Thursday. Not sure what we're doing yet, but I'll probably recommend drinks. However, I would have gotten out of it if we hadn't been trying to make plans since prior to two weekends ago. It might be a bit wrong of me to meet "teacher guy" but I wasn't sure what to say last night to get out of it since I didn't return his call for hours as I was preoccupied. I'm sure this is considered rather scandalous since I'm meeting someone that I'm not particularly interested in and especially due to the nature of my recent preoccupation...

And that preoccupation is my new offline guy thing. For two weekends, soon to be three since we have plans to hang out this coming weekend, I have been spending time with a guy that I've known for years. I'm trying to insert a clever nickname other than "friend guy" but it's just not working. There's a whole nifty story as to how that started and what's been going on, but I'm not ready to discuss that in this forum just yet. I'm sure there's already enough gossip flying around in my offline group of friends after Saturday night that I don't need to provide any details online. These last couple of weekends have been a wonderful surprise and a wonderful time - I'm just going to go with it for now and see what happens.

Let's just say that I am happy and content right now with how things are going. That sentence is a first for this blog!

The Nerve of Some People

I received a text message from "med student guy" saying "Go Pitt!" at 8:13am. Not cool. I was enjoying the tournament and not thinking about him. I never received a text message from him and don't particularly feel like starting now since I'm kind of over him.

That is all.

LET'S GO PITT!!! (besides, that is how it should be expressed:)

I'm Back!

I apologize for taking the extra week off, but it was a very exhausting holiday.

So during this time, I did meet a guy from Match.com - "Steelworker guy". I actually met up with him the Wednesday evening before Parade Day. We had a very short online conversation before he up and texted me, asking if i wanted to grab a beer. I was actually on my way out, so I took a little detour and met up with him. Very cute, but not very talkative or interesting. He seemed to complain about everything - from traffic, to Pittsburgh drivers, to taking care of his dad who had some health problems. The first two I can understand, but family is family so there's no need to complain to someone you just met about the general act of taking care of your family members. I find that selfish. Regardless, after a drink he was suddenly exhausted and I was fine with leaving to meet up with my friends. I was not concerned with getting a second date with "Steelworker guy".

Also, I still received some text messages from the Romanian. I haven't received one in about a week, so that's a good sign. How long does it take for someone to get the hint? Apparently for claiming to be a doctor, he's a slow learner. I'm sure he has very high malpractice premiums.

The day after Parade Day, I decided that I would see who else was out there. So currently I am having email conversations with "Random POF guy", "Referee guy", and "Teacher guy". Sadly, none of them really excite me but I figure that I'll keep writing and see if one of them surprises me.

"Random POF guy" - I know, the nickname isn't that great. Honestly, nothing stands out and I can't really call him "Just There guy". Also, he took a couple days before writing me back and then I took a week to call him back. He emailed me a couple days ago, but I haven't responded just yet.

"Referee guy" - Works at one of the local school districts doing facilities management and also referee's high school sports. He's going to be a State Trooper - maybe he can get me out of any future speeding tickets? He can still be a ref after he's a trooper. That was my big question to him.

"Teacher guy" - Has the same fear of heights that I do. He actually lives pretty close to my mom, so I wonder if he teaches at my old high school. He's the only one I've spoken to on the phone. We've been trying to make plans to get together, but I think after I took awhile to call him, and then forgot to call at the end of last week, he's not so enchanted with me either. I spoke with him on Monday to make plans to grab a drink, but he didn't have much time to talk and he was busy all week. He's supposed to call me tomorrow evening to make plans to grab a drink or lunch this weekend, but again, I wouldn't really care if I didn't get a call.

I'm trying to figure out what's wrong with this time of year when it comes to meeting people. Honestly, I think there's something about the fall that people meet people and then make it through the summer and break up. And then they start looking again. That or the impending winter months make it more conducive to staying inside and sitting on the computer whereas now, people are trying to spend as much time as possible outside. I can't blame them though - I've been doing the same thing.

Anyways, today and Saturday are supposed to be rainy so maybe someone really interesting will be online.

Holiday Hiatus

With the impending Pittsburgh holiday known as "Parade Day", the Saturday before St. Patrick's Day when Pittsburgh has a huge St. Patrick's Day parade and all of the festivities that go along with the American tradition, I will be taking a break from online dating. I will instead be focusing on spending time with my friends this weekend and next week, enjoying the best St. Patrick's Day has to offer in America (a/k/a green beer.)

Everyone have a safe and happy St. Patrick's Day holiday with whatever plans you have in Pittsburgh or elsewhere! :)

"FSN guy": the Drought Continues

I met "FSN guy" at 7 in Bloomfield for dinner. I was there about 2 minutes before him. When we met up, he gave me a hug and we went to sit down. He had called to make reservations beforehand, which was a great idea for a Friday night. We had dinner and talked a lot - the conversation never died. In fact, we were so busy talking that the waiter kept coming back and we kept asking for a couple more minutes. A two minute "menu penalty" was enforced so that our waiter didn't have to come back a 4th time just to take our order.

I thought everything was going well. We stayed after dinner for another drink. Our waiter came out and asked if we could close the check since he was getting in trouble for overtime. So "FSN guy" paid the bill and we planned to hang out longer. Just around 9, karaoke started in the bar. Neither of us can stand karaoke, so we decided to leave. I mentioned going somewhere else to keep talking and he agreed. When we got outside he wanted to drop off his food in his car. Still under the assumption that we were going somewhere else, I walked with him. I also didn't feel like standing on a street corner by myself.

It was a good thing since once we got to the car and he put his food in, all of a sudden he said that he had to go. Apparently he received a text message and had a "friend emergency" that he needed to take care of. According to him, one friend was drunk and another friend was mad at the drunk friend. He said he might text me later and maybe send over any good pictures or video if there were any good ones. I told him that I would text my real email over instead of the POF email that we had been using. But we stood in the parking lot talking for 10 minutes or so and he gave me a hug goodbye.

Of course, I haven't heard anything back. And while the date seemed to have gone well, apparently it didn't. The mixed signals threw me off - the goodbye hug at the same time he was engaging in, what my friend referred to as, the "classic dodge" to get out of continuing the date. Even though I enjoyed talking to him and I was having a good time on the date, I'm ok with it being just a first date. However, I expected much more honesty out of "FSN guy".

Is It Friday Night Yet?

After another hour-long conversation last night with "FSN guy", a conversation that seemed to just fly by with tons of great conversation, we have plans to meet after 5 days of talking. He has Friday and Saturday off and we both have plans for Saturday night, so Friday was the best bet. I asked him what he wanted to do and his suggestion was dinner and drinks. I said that I was up for that, even though I think dinner can be a big commitment for meeting someone for the first time. However, it worked well with "CMU guy" back in August and we didn't have nearly as much to talk about at first. "FSN guy" and I, on the other hand, already have a couple of stories that were too long for phone conversation and, as he put it, required drinks.

It was also fun, too, before we talked on the phone last night that we were texting while watching our basketball games. Pitt was playing Marquette at home and WVU (his team) played DePaul. Both of us won, so we were in a good mood. "FSN guy" and I talked about the possibility of a Pitt/WVU game in either the Big East or the NCAA tournament. "FSN guy" suggested a wager on the game. Initially if WVU won, he was going to have me wear a bunch of WVU gear and take a picture. That would be awful even though I think Pitt will win and I won't have to worry about it. So I said that he would have to wear my Pitt basketball jersey while I video taped him singing Pitt's Alma Mater. Then I would upload it to YouTube and optimize it with some great search phrases. There would also be a link on Facebook and MySpace for all of my friends to enjoy. "FSN guy" said he now has to consult his WVU friends for something a little bit better to match mine. I'm good! My only request was that it didn't involve any couch fires.

Tomorrow should be interesting and I'm actually not too nervous. We already have too much to talk about. And we figured out where we are going for dinner and what time. We both had a list of 3 and had the same restaurant on our respective lists, so that's the one we're going to. I guess we'll have to see what happens tomorrow night! I just want to fast forward to that point so I can know if it was a good idea to fall off the wagon last Sunday.

I Fell Off the Wagon

I was completely going to take a break from the online dating for awhile. Just a bit of a recovery period from the last two mishaps with the Romanian and "med student guy". But alas, I fell off the wagon and am back to talking to guys online again.

It started innocently enough. I had received some emails through Match.com and Plentyoffish.com so I went online to write back that I wasn't interested in meeting anyone right now. And I did write that - to the guys who weren't cute and who met my criteria (height, children, etc.) There was one on each site that had contacted me, were cute, and met the initial requirements. So I winked back at the one on Match.com and wrote back to the guy on Plentyoffish.com.

The Match.com guy, now known as "coworker guy" since he previously worked with some friends of mine and also knows one of my former coworkers (he is not one of my coworkers though, so don't get confused), apparently doesn't pay for Match anymore or really just enjoys tracking people down through social media. Because he friend requested me on Facebook. However, it's easier to find me through Match.com because of the username mistake that I made when I initially signed up. So we've been talking for a bit - he does some web design work and I asked him if his site was SEO-friendly. However, I haven't found the click yet. I'll continue to pleasantly write back though because he seems like a pretty nice guy.

The Plentyoffish.com guy works during the day as an Executive Recruiter, plays hockey in the evening, and then plays solo acoustic "gigs" at night. I'm going to call him "rock star guy" since he actually plays music onstage. In front of people. That and it's just cool to say. He and I sent a couple emails back and forth on Sunday and Monday. However, I haven't heard back from him. He seems like he might not be a big email person. That and he's super busy. He seems nice enough, but it may take forever to get to know him and I am not doing the whole "talk over email and phone for a month then make plans to meet that never happen" thing again.

While I was on POF, I decided to do some window shopping. So I checked out some profiles and there were a couple guys who met the requirements that I placed on my favorites list with the intention of writing to them in the near future. I really was trying to stay on the wagon. But then "Peters Twp guy" (because he lives there) and "FSN guy" (because he works for FSN Pittsburgh producing Pens and Pirates games) wrote to me. I wrote them back Sunday evening. That officially made me fall off of the "no online dating" wagon. Yes, bad Kristy.

"FSN guy" and I wrote some emails back and forth Sunday evening and Monday. His Tuesday morning email asked for my number because we had quite a bit to talk about over email. We talked about Pittsburgh, museums, sports, work, family, and the online dating thing. And most importantly, "FSN guy" is willing to provide 2 forms of photo id, a list of references, and go through any sort of application process I put forward. He definitely gets my sense of humor so far! Bonus points for him.

We decided that we had to meet. After a "phone interview" though. Because you have to talk over the phone at least once, even if it's to setup the time to meet. He called last night and we talked for about 40 minutes and it was a good conversation. I didn't even realize the we talked for 40 minutes - I thought it was only 15 or 20. And we're definitely going to meet up probably either Friday or Saturday since he's off both days and I have plans through Thursday. So I'm excited to meet him, but not expecting a second date yet because of the bad luck thing.