Every week Match.com sends me these emails with pictures (if available) and links to 12 guys that, based on their algorithm, match my profile. Every week I scan through the email, notice at least 2 guys that have been in previous emails, and never click on any of them.
Usually I find some of these guys absolutely hysterical. The info they provide is really nothing more than their picture, age, height, and a couple other blurbs about whether they want kids and the age range of the women they're looking for. It also provides their user name. It's really the user names that make me laugh.
Today's winning list:
idsmackthat
b4gunner1
2007NightTrain
Canyon173
crj_guy
trueblue_15
RSmith32
jay34300
joejoe78brick
bam3636
rebootrequired
TheLastPrince66
The ones from this list that made me laugh (almost outloud while at work) in order of hilarity with reasons why:
1. idsmackthat - yeah, you're really looking to date someone (said with the most sarcastic tone imaginable).
2. TheLastPrince66 - you're probably not attractive and trying to win someone over with your sparkling personality. But can the women get over your awful personal hygiene?
3. rebootrequired - i'm going to talk about computers and video games all day, every day and then ask you if you want to go to the next Star Trek convention.
Here is my most recent theory as to why Match.com has dried up in regard to dating leads lately:
It's the middle of regular season football. All of the cute fun guys are watching football all weekend and busy at work trying to get everything done for the week to watch football all weekend. Hence no time to meet women online and spend enough time emailing to get to the point where the woman is ready to meet them.
I really should have planned this online dating thing around football season. I should know better!
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
Monday, October 27, 2008
10 Days Later...
...the only update I can provide is the following:
Sunday 10/19 rolls around. I was working on getting rid of my hangover from hanging out with my Iowan friend all day Saturday watching football and reliving college. Well, the Iowan was reliving college and my 30-year-old liver dropped out around midnight. I texted "Utah guy" to see if he had an update regarding the status of hanging out Sunday night and he said that he still had a lot of work to do and "perhaps another time?" I replied that another time would be nice and that I totally understood that he had a lot of work to do.
So that was 8 days ago and no word. Unless he's on track to finish his PhD this week, I probably won't hear from him. Ever. Because I didn't receive any messages at all and if he was able to find time that first week to hang out for 4 hours, I'm sure that he could have found time to text me to make plans.
While I waited to see if I would receive a message from "Utah guy", I proceeded with other conversations. Match.com has not really provided any potential lately, even though I did receive a new email that I need to check out. Also I did make it through questions for a few more people on eHarmony. Last week I did start emailing "Graphics guy" a couple times. I have yet to respond to his last message since he wrote me Friday evening and I was busy this weekend with a friend of mine in town for Pitt's Homecoming game. I'm not sure about "Graphics guy" - I don't have that super excited feeling when I find out that he's sent a message since, obviously, I haven't found a minute to write back.
There's also "Teacher guy" who I replied to on eHarmony but no response. I'm also fine with that because I didn't find his picture all that particularly attractive. It was better than most, but again, not making me obsessively check my email. Also, I'm in the process of going through questions for 3 other people, which may bring some additional options, but I'm not too confident in them. One guy has not shown me a picture and that is usually a prerequisite for any interaction, but I figured I'd take a chance. I was a bit bored last week with the online dating since it started out at a standstill last Monday. Another one I feel might stall since I'm still waiting on a response. We'll see about the third.
So to sum up:
1. "Utah guy" - 99% sure it's a closed match.
2. I've hit the time of the year where I am a more preoccupied with football and friends on weekends as well as trying to move, so this online dating is taking a backseat since I'm not finding anyone that peaks my interest at this moment. I guess I'm probably going to have to wait around and see what happens.
Sunday 10/19 rolls around. I was working on getting rid of my hangover from hanging out with my Iowan friend all day Saturday watching football and reliving college. Well, the Iowan was reliving college and my 30-year-old liver dropped out around midnight. I texted "Utah guy" to see if he had an update regarding the status of hanging out Sunday night and he said that he still had a lot of work to do and "perhaps another time?" I replied that another time would be nice and that I totally understood that he had a lot of work to do.
So that was 8 days ago and no word. Unless he's on track to finish his PhD this week, I probably won't hear from him. Ever. Because I didn't receive any messages at all and if he was able to find time that first week to hang out for 4 hours, I'm sure that he could have found time to text me to make plans.
While I waited to see if I would receive a message from "Utah guy", I proceeded with other conversations. Match.com has not really provided any potential lately, even though I did receive a new email that I need to check out. Also I did make it through questions for a few more people on eHarmony. Last week I did start emailing "Graphics guy" a couple times. I have yet to respond to his last message since he wrote me Friday evening and I was busy this weekend with a friend of mine in town for Pitt's Homecoming game. I'm not sure about "Graphics guy" - I don't have that super excited feeling when I find out that he's sent a message since, obviously, I haven't found a minute to write back.
There's also "Teacher guy" who I replied to on eHarmony but no response. I'm also fine with that because I didn't find his picture all that particularly attractive. It was better than most, but again, not making me obsessively check my email. Also, I'm in the process of going through questions for 3 other people, which may bring some additional options, but I'm not too confident in them. One guy has not shown me a picture and that is usually a prerequisite for any interaction, but I figured I'd take a chance. I was a bit bored last week with the online dating since it started out at a standstill last Monday. Another one I feel might stall since I'm still waiting on a response. We'll see about the third.
So to sum up:
1. "Utah guy" - 99% sure it's a closed match.
2. I've hit the time of the year where I am a more preoccupied with football and friends on weekends as well as trying to move, so this online dating is taking a backseat since I'm not finding anyone that peaks my interest at this moment. I guess I'm probably going to have to wait around and see what happens.
Friday, October 17, 2008
Ambiguity
All evening Tuesday I waited for a text from "Utah guy". I was a bit anxious when I didn't hear anything back because last week he was always quick to respond.
Wednesday around 2:30 in the afternoon while I was reviewing a report, my phone buzzed with a new text. Thinking it was from the Iowan (a new friend of mine - not an online dating prospect) since he and I were going to hang out and watch the debate that night, I grabbed the phone and opened the message. It was from "Utah guy".
My original message: "Hey-i just wanted to say that i really enjoyed meeting you saturday night. Let me know if you would like to hangout again."
His response: "wow. Sorry for such a long delay in response:) i enjoyed meeting you as well."
The message didn't give me much to work with. There was a smiley face, but no answer as to getting together again. Also, I didn't understand the "wow" response.
So I consulted 2 female and 2 male sources in order to get a balanced opinion as to whether this was a positive or negative on a second "date". One of my male sources gave me a great plan of action - to wait until the next day and then write back, asking if he wanted to hang out this weekend. If he said "yes", then cool. If there was no response or he said "no" then I would have my answer.
My reply on Thursday: "I figured you were busy with work & school so you'd have time for football later this week (: do you want to hangout this weekend or do you already have plans?"
I actually started to write this blog when a new text message came in from "Utah guy":
"hey. I may be able to hang out on sunday evening- as always it kinda depends on how productive i can be the rest of the time"
So I am definitely calmer than I was on Tuesday night. I think I completely stress out one of my friends from our Tuesday Girly Poker Night Club who reads this blog. She told me I need to calm down.
AM - I'm better now! Sorry to cause any undue stress regarding my mental state/boy craziness! :)
But she definitely has a point - 4 1/2 years of being single and becoming the American version of Bridget Jones has made me a little anxious during this dating process. Hopefully I can keep my insanity in check and have a clear state of mind moving forward to keep my friends' sanity in check as well.
And if not, they might have to just take my phone away for periods of time and sedate me with alcohol. Also, I have been making lots of plans to hang out with friends to keep myself busy and under control. This weekend I'm looking forward to lots of football watching with the Iowan! And if I get to hang out with "Utah guy" Sunday night then cool and if not, I'll be having fun on my own. (:
Wednesday around 2:30 in the afternoon while I was reviewing a report, my phone buzzed with a new text. Thinking it was from the Iowan (a new friend of mine - not an online dating prospect) since he and I were going to hang out and watch the debate that night, I grabbed the phone and opened the message. It was from "Utah guy".
My original message: "Hey-i just wanted to say that i really enjoyed meeting you saturday night. Let me know if you would like to hangout again."
His response: "wow. Sorry for such a long delay in response:) i enjoyed meeting you as well."
The message didn't give me much to work with. There was a smiley face, but no answer as to getting together again. Also, I didn't understand the "wow" response.
So I consulted 2 female and 2 male sources in order to get a balanced opinion as to whether this was a positive or negative on a second "date". One of my male sources gave me a great plan of action - to wait until the next day and then write back, asking if he wanted to hang out this weekend. If he said "yes", then cool. If there was no response or he said "no" then I would have my answer.
My reply on Thursday: "I figured you were busy with work & school so you'd have time for football later this week (: do you want to hangout this weekend or do you already have plans?"
I actually started to write this blog when a new text message came in from "Utah guy":
"hey. I may be able to hang out on sunday evening- as always it kinda depends on how productive i can be the rest of the time"
So I am definitely calmer than I was on Tuesday night. I think I completely stress out one of my friends from our Tuesday Girly Poker Night Club who reads this blog. She told me I need to calm down.
AM - I'm better now! Sorry to cause any undue stress regarding my mental state/boy craziness! :)
But she definitely has a point - 4 1/2 years of being single and becoming the American version of Bridget Jones has made me a little anxious during this dating process. Hopefully I can keep my insanity in check and have a clear state of mind moving forward to keep my friends' sanity in check as well.
And if not, they might have to just take my phone away for periods of time and sedate me with alcohol. Also, I have been making lots of plans to hang out with friends to keep myself busy and under control. This weekend I'm looking forward to lots of football watching with the Iowan! And if I get to hang out with "Utah guy" Sunday night then cool and if not, I'll be having fun on my own. (:
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
Cross Your Fingers Please
So I sent the text message to say that I enjoyed meeting "Utah guy" Saturday night and asked him to let me know if he would like to hangout again.
I'm keeping my fingers crossed that I don't get one of the following responses:
1. no answer at all
2. a message that he got back together with his ex-girlfriend who just happens to live in Pittsburgh
3. an email saying that he closed the match on eHarmony
4. any message where he says he just not interested because I said something that annoyed him, that he's just not attracted to me, or any other reason to never hangout with me again
Essentially, I want him to write back that he had a good time, too, and wants to hang out again. So I'm going to have to keep my fingers crossed that I get a second date with "Utah guy" and he doesn't go by the wayside of the other men that I've met and never seen again.
I'm keeping my fingers crossed that I don't get one of the following responses:
1. no answer at all
2. a message that he got back together with his ex-girlfriend who just happens to live in Pittsburgh
3. an email saying that he closed the match on eHarmony
4. any message where he says he just not interested because I said something that annoyed him, that he's just not attracted to me, or any other reason to never hangout with me again
Essentially, I want him to write back that he had a good time, too, and wants to hang out again. So I'm going to have to keep my fingers crossed that I get a second date with "Utah guy" and he doesn't go by the wayside of the other men that I've met and never seen again.
Monday, October 13, 2008
"Utah guy" and the Trip to the Southside
"Utah guy" did call me on Thursday evening. We spoke on the phone for awhile - I felt bad because he had a really crappy Thursday at work. And I was on my way to meet the friends. Between the circumstances and the fact that I'm not good on the phone, I proposed that we meet in person. He said that he wasn't good on the phone either and thought that was a great idea.
I had that bit of nervousness since I really wanted to meet him over the weekend but didn't want to seem over eager. When I asked him when he said that, although he hated to admit it, his schedule was pretty open since he moved here not long ago. So I suggested Saturday evening and he said he'd be there. We spoke on the phone Friday because we were having a tough time deciding where to go since he's still not very familiar with the city. We decided on 8 at Z Lounge.
I got their first and staked out some seats. He showed up and looked exactly like his pictures - definitely a good sign. I thought that Z Lounge would be quiet. I guess you can't gauge the weekend by what a place is like on a Wednesday night because it was quite the opposite after the DJ showed up. We at least got to talk for about an hour and a half before it got too loud. And that hour and a half flew by. We decided to take a walk and see if we could find something quieter. So "Utah guy" and I headed down Carson towards the Birmingham Bridge. The Double Wide was pretty empty so we sat down outside to enjoy the beautiful weather.
At the Double Wide, I started to get a little nervous about the date. I mean, he could have left after Z Lounge but he didn't. Maybe it was just me feeling a little weird. There were some moments of awkward silence the whole night. But then, what do you expect meeting someone for the first time and being on a date-type-thing? I wasn't a fan of the outdoor lighting there though. I like dark places when I first meeting someone because I think I can relax a little more. He ended up with a headache that started at Z Lounge and was still lingering at the Double Wide. He was out for the Ohio State game at a party so I'm hoping it was a just a bit of a hangover. From our conversation, he seems to enjoy having party days watching football...which is what I did the whole day watching the Iowa and then the CMU game. We did a lot of football talk, political talk, some music and movie talk, and some talk about our jobs and his school.
We actually ended up hanging out for about an hour, hour and a half at the Double Wide before I mentioned that it had gotten pretty cold. He was practically shivering and I could barely feel my hands. Also, it was 11:45pm and we were both pretty exhausted.
This is where I get confused. So we started walking back towards Z Lounge since he was parked closer there and I was parked by 22nd. When we got to the corner for me to cross, we pretty much said goodbye. No "I had a great time" or "let's do this again". No kiss or even hug. So now I'm just confused.
I've decided that I am going to have to be a little brave and text him. Tomorrow. I'm thinking that maybe he was just being shy because he totally had an out after Z Lounge. And my only date where the guy didn't like me (the first one, "Squirrel Hill guy" but coincidentally has the same first name as "Utah guy") had one cup of coffee with me and then left. A grand total of an hour. Not almost 4 hours. And he hasn't "closed the match" on eHarmony. So they could be positive signs. And anyways, I figure that if he's not interested, he'll either be kind enough to let me know or never write or call back.
So I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a second date.
I had that bit of nervousness since I really wanted to meet him over the weekend but didn't want to seem over eager. When I asked him when he said that, although he hated to admit it, his schedule was pretty open since he moved here not long ago. So I suggested Saturday evening and he said he'd be there. We spoke on the phone Friday because we were having a tough time deciding where to go since he's still not very familiar with the city. We decided on 8 at Z Lounge.
I got their first and staked out some seats. He showed up and looked exactly like his pictures - definitely a good sign. I thought that Z Lounge would be quiet. I guess you can't gauge the weekend by what a place is like on a Wednesday night because it was quite the opposite after the DJ showed up. We at least got to talk for about an hour and a half before it got too loud. And that hour and a half flew by. We decided to take a walk and see if we could find something quieter. So "Utah guy" and I headed down Carson towards the Birmingham Bridge. The Double Wide was pretty empty so we sat down outside to enjoy the beautiful weather.
At the Double Wide, I started to get a little nervous about the date. I mean, he could have left after Z Lounge but he didn't. Maybe it was just me feeling a little weird. There were some moments of awkward silence the whole night. But then, what do you expect meeting someone for the first time and being on a date-type-thing? I wasn't a fan of the outdoor lighting there though. I like dark places when I first meeting someone because I think I can relax a little more. He ended up with a headache that started at Z Lounge and was still lingering at the Double Wide. He was out for the Ohio State game at a party so I'm hoping it was a just a bit of a hangover. From our conversation, he seems to enjoy having party days watching football...which is what I did the whole day watching the Iowa and then the CMU game. We did a lot of football talk, political talk, some music and movie talk, and some talk about our jobs and his school.
We actually ended up hanging out for about an hour, hour and a half at the Double Wide before I mentioned that it had gotten pretty cold. He was practically shivering and I could barely feel my hands. Also, it was 11:45pm and we were both pretty exhausted.
This is where I get confused. So we started walking back towards Z Lounge since he was parked closer there and I was parked by 22nd. When we got to the corner for me to cross, we pretty much said goodbye. No "I had a great time" or "let's do this again". No kiss or even hug. So now I'm just confused.
I've decided that I am going to have to be a little brave and text him. Tomorrow. I'm thinking that maybe he was just being shy because he totally had an out after Z Lounge. And my only date where the guy didn't like me (the first one, "Squirrel Hill guy" but coincidentally has the same first name as "Utah guy") had one cup of coffee with me and then left. A grand total of an hour. Not almost 4 hours. And he hasn't "closed the match" on eHarmony. So they could be positive signs. And anyways, I figure that if he's not interested, he'll either be kind enough to let me know or never write or call back.
So I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a second date.
Thursday, October 9, 2008
Thursday Man Update
"Utah guy":
We wrote back and forth a couple times. In his message he sent Tuesday night, he included his phone number. So instead of responding I just called him last night. Unfortunately he didn't answer so I left a message. I did get a text from him apologizing for missing my call and asking if he could call tonight. Definitely - yes. Call tonight. I'm really looking forward to talk to him. Let's hope he remembers to call!
"Hurricane guy":
He started texting me last night around 7. He was doing homework and wanted some stress relief. Of course, as how our text messages work, it started being a little more suggestive. He asked if I wanted to help so, knowing that he meant stress relief, I took the homework angle and said that unless the subject was marketing or websites, I wouldn't be useful. He then suggested practicing anatomy. That's where I had to write back that I was concerned that he was just looking to hook up and I was absolutely looking for more than that. "Hurricane guy" did say get a little defensive with his response that he never said that he was only looking for a hook up. I was glad to hear that and I told him just that. However, I haven't heard from him since. So I guess I'm going to have to see what happens. If he never bothers to text or call me again, my guess is that he really did just want to hook up...
We wrote back and forth a couple times. In his message he sent Tuesday night, he included his phone number. So instead of responding I just called him last night. Unfortunately he didn't answer so I left a message. I did get a text from him apologizing for missing my call and asking if he could call tonight. Definitely - yes. Call tonight. I'm really looking forward to talk to him. Let's hope he remembers to call!
"Hurricane guy":
He started texting me last night around 7. He was doing homework and wanted some stress relief. Of course, as how our text messages work, it started being a little more suggestive. He asked if I wanted to help so, knowing that he meant stress relief, I took the homework angle and said that unless the subject was marketing or websites, I wouldn't be useful. He then suggested practicing anatomy. That's where I had to write back that I was concerned that he was just looking to hook up and I was absolutely looking for more than that. "Hurricane guy" did say get a little defensive with his response that he never said that he was only looking for a hook up. I was glad to hear that and I told him just that. However, I haven't heard from him since. So I guess I'm going to have to see what happens. If he never bothers to text or call me again, my guess is that he really did just want to hook up...
Tuesday, October 7, 2008
It Finally Worked!!!
eHarmony has never been very successful for me. While I met 3 guys from Match.com, I hadn't even found a cute guy to respond back to me on eHarmony. That plus the fact that eHarmony kept matching me with men in Canada, Michigan, Ohio, Virginia...
Lately I have been keeping up with eHarmony just for the sole fact that I don't want to have to go through almost 200 people again. So on Sunday, I came across this one guy's profile. He was cute and had a professional job. He also was a big football fan and was a guy who liked to go out. I'm tired of profiles of guys that say that they hate going to bars and blah, blah, blah. Yes, going out for a couple drinks with friends...being social - very good!! I don't want a guy where we end up dating and all we do is sit in a room and stare at each other.
Since I need to give this guy a pseudonym, I will call him "Utah guy" since he had a picture with a caption that said "at home in Utah".
One of my other big gripes with eHarmony, other than the crappy matching algorithm, is the questions. I chose the "prefer guided communication", which means that someone sends some questions, you answer and send yours back, send back a list of things that you absolutely must have and things that you absolutely can't stand, then you exchange some open ended questions. The furthest I ever made it before deciding that the guy wasn't that interesting or cute was the "Must Haves/Can't Stands". But "Utah guy" seemed pretty cool as I hung out on Sunday watching football. He's a big football fan, too, who likes more than one team. And he does cheer for the Packers and the Steelers - so that is good! With my luck he'll be a Cowboys or Patriots fan...or even worse - a Browns fan!!!
Apparently after you get back the open ended questions, you get to start chatting through "email" on eHarmony. So far so good! I'm looking forward to my next message.
And if you're thinking - "What about 'Hurricane guy'?" I must admit that I have a feeling that all he really wants to do it hook up with me. I haven't even bothered to text him back since he was writing me on Saturday. I guess I should and I will eventually. I would just like to meet "Utah guy" first.
Lately I have been keeping up with eHarmony just for the sole fact that I don't want to have to go through almost 200 people again. So on Sunday, I came across this one guy's profile. He was cute and had a professional job. He also was a big football fan and was a guy who liked to go out. I'm tired of profiles of guys that say that they hate going to bars and blah, blah, blah. Yes, going out for a couple drinks with friends...being social - very good!! I don't want a guy where we end up dating and all we do is sit in a room and stare at each other.
Since I need to give this guy a pseudonym, I will call him "Utah guy" since he had a picture with a caption that said "at home in Utah".
One of my other big gripes with eHarmony, other than the crappy matching algorithm, is the questions. I chose the "prefer guided communication", which means that someone sends some questions, you answer and send yours back, send back a list of things that you absolutely must have and things that you absolutely can't stand, then you exchange some open ended questions. The furthest I ever made it before deciding that the guy wasn't that interesting or cute was the "Must Haves/Can't Stands". But "Utah guy" seemed pretty cool as I hung out on Sunday watching football. He's a big football fan, too, who likes more than one team. And he does cheer for the Packers and the Steelers - so that is good! With my luck he'll be a Cowboys or Patriots fan...or even worse - a Browns fan!!!
Apparently after you get back the open ended questions, you get to start chatting through "email" on eHarmony. So far so good! I'm looking forward to my next message.
And if you're thinking - "What about 'Hurricane guy'?" I must admit that I have a feeling that all he really wants to do it hook up with me. I haven't even bothered to text him back since he was writing me on Saturday. I guess I should and I will eventually. I would just like to meet "Utah guy" first.
Friday, October 3, 2008
Killing Time in Another Time Zone
I had a client meeting in Denver today. So the team and I flew out last night, slept, went to the meeting, and now are sitting in the Denver airport. Since I've spent the better part of the past 48 hours with my team, I started texting friends to chat. So when my phone buzzed with a text message, I figured it was one of my friends writing back.
Turns out it was "Hurricane guy". He and I have been having a text conversation now for about 15-20 minutes. It's the most I've heard from him in weeks. He was telling me to sleep to kill time on the plan and to think of him. Of course, me being the bitch that I am from time to time, I just wrote back to the message where he mentioned welcoming me back properly and ended it with referencing the fact that he stopped writing the last time we tried to make plans.
My phone just buzzed with another message. I was expecting him to disappear again. Shocking! He said that we'll get together soon and I replied that I was glad to hear that since I thought that he was blowing me off recently. He said school just sucks, but I still think it's a bit fishy since he disappeared in the middle of the text conversation to setup another time to meet. That and the random "How's your day" message that I responded to earlier this week but never got a response back.
This should be interesting...I'll keep you posted if we actually do make plans to hang out. Or I'm sure if he keeps blowing me off I'll complain about that, too. However, I am still keeping my offline options open.
Turns out it was "Hurricane guy". He and I have been having a text conversation now for about 15-20 minutes. It's the most I've heard from him in weeks. He was telling me to sleep to kill time on the plan and to think of him. Of course, me being the bitch that I am from time to time, I just wrote back to the message where he mentioned welcoming me back properly and ended it with referencing the fact that he stopped writing the last time we tried to make plans.
My phone just buzzed with another message. I was expecting him to disappear again. Shocking! He said that we'll get together soon and I replied that I was glad to hear that since I thought that he was blowing me off recently. He said school just sucks, but I still think it's a bit fishy since he disappeared in the middle of the text conversation to setup another time to meet. That and the random "How's your day" message that I responded to earlier this week but never got a response back.
This should be interesting...I'll keep you posted if we actually do make plans to hang out. Or I'm sure if he keeps blowing me off I'll complain about that, too. However, I am still keeping my offline options open.
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