I just got a text from "Hurricane guy" asking me how my day was. The appropriate text would have been, "How have you been this past week?"
Go figure - I prepare myself to explore my offline opportunities and out of nowhere I hear from "Hurricane guy".
So I'm on the fence. I might just wait awhile to respond. Or write back, wait for him to respond, and then not answer for 5 days. And when I do finally resurface, send a generic text message like I haven't disappeared for awhile.
Thinking about this, he must have short term memory loss...or maybe he's reading this blog?
Tuesday, September 30, 2008
"Hurricane Guy" Lived Up to His Name
He showed up, stuck around for about 12 hours, then dissipated.
The watched phone never rang. It didn't even ding from a new text message from "Hurricane guy". There were no natural disasters that took place where he would have been deployed. Therefore, no date number 2.
I had some reservations about him anyways - the shady roommate situation, the racist comments he made towards the end of the date as he was driving me back to my car, the feeling that he wanted to hook up with me more than date me...all of these make it difficult for me to really care that there isn't a date number 2. I wanted to go on a second date because I wanted to get a chance to know him better, but seeing as how I don't necessarily think those were his intentions maybe it's a good thing.
Fortunately, my Match.com subscription is not done until January so I can go back to ignoring the 50-year-old guys and hoping to start talking to cute guys my age. Also, when it rains, it pours so I also have some possible offline prospects, one of which seems to be the most appealing of all right now.
Despite these options, the only other thing that I want to close this match out for good is a reason why he doesn't want to make plans. Especially after he started to make plans last Thursday. At least "CMU guy" was polite enough to give me a reason. It was a bit upsetting to me, but I definitely appreciated the honesty.
The watched phone never rang. It didn't even ding from a new text message from "Hurricane guy". There were no natural disasters that took place where he would have been deployed. Therefore, no date number 2.
I had some reservations about him anyways - the shady roommate situation, the racist comments he made towards the end of the date as he was driving me back to my car, the feeling that he wanted to hook up with me more than date me...all of these make it difficult for me to really care that there isn't a date number 2. I wanted to go on a second date because I wanted to get a chance to know him better, but seeing as how I don't necessarily think those were his intentions maybe it's a good thing.
Fortunately, my Match.com subscription is not done until January so I can go back to ignoring the 50-year-old guys and hoping to start talking to cute guys my age. Also, when it rains, it pours so I also have some possible offline prospects, one of which seems to be the most appealing of all right now.
Despite these options, the only other thing that I want to close this match out for good is a reason why he doesn't want to make plans. Especially after he started to make plans last Thursday. At least "CMU guy" was polite enough to give me a reason. It was a bit upsetting to me, but I definitely appreciated the honesty.
Friday, September 26, 2008
One Week and Counting...
One week ago I went on a really great date and was excited for date 2. I know that I need to have a little more patience at times, but when someone tells you that they can't wait to see you again, you would think that you would make plans to meet up.
"Hurricane guy" and I have been texting back and forth - Saturday night while I was at my friend's wedding, Sunday when I was having breakfast with friends who were in town for said wedding, Monday around 6pm when I was still at work, Thursday morning while I got my car inspected...that's a lot of texting, right? In all of those texts, there was no mention of another date. There was still a lot of talk of wanting to see each other again, but no "hey - what are you doing this weekend? Do you want to hangout?" Nothing.
So I decided to take matters into my own hands yesterday afternoon. I asked him if he wanted to make plans to get together. He was amenable and we got a few texts into making plans for "sometime soon" - just about the time for me to say that weekends were best and to ask if he worked every Saturday since I already had plans for Friday...and then the text messages stopped. Nothing since then. I sent one more last night asking him to call when he had time so we could setup the next date.
Now I'm waiting for the phone to ring. And we all know a watched phone never rings.
I've been trying to hypothesize as to what may be going on in order to prepare myself for the potential of no second date:
1. He is dating other people as well and found someone he liked better. This could be a definite possibility. Because the week or so while we were planning to meet up, he had not checked his Match.com account. However, he totally checked his Match.com account earlier this week. I know because I checked earlier this week and it said that he had been active within 24 hours - so Sunday night or Monday.
This could also mean that he thinks that I might be dating other people as well, but you know that I'm not. And I know that I'm not. But I still have yet to totally understand the thought processes of those with a Y chromosome so I would hope that he would think that I'm not. I'm looking to date one person, not a thousand people.
2. Something I said in one of my text messages changed his mind. I don't think this is the case because I said slightly more controversial things while we were out. But if my headache/hangover on Sunday because I had way too much fun and booze hanging out with my college friends at the wedding, then it would never work since I love my college friends and they've been around longer. They are part of my life and no one that I barely know will change my relationship with any of my friends. They either join in the fun or go home.
3. His grandfather is sick again. This can't be it - he would have told me since he told me last time.
4. Abducted by aliens (to use a friend's phrase) - this is when a guy just disappears. Stops calling or messaging. This is quite a frequent occurrence, at least in my and my friend's experiences. However, he does write back on occasion. He hasn't been on Match.com since Sunday night or Monday so the abduction could have taken place around 4pm yesterday.
Hopefully I'll have either a date or some results of my hypotheses above. I'm really hoping to have the date and not the reason that he stopped texting during our attempts to set a date.
"Hurricane guy" and I have been texting back and forth - Saturday night while I was at my friend's wedding, Sunday when I was having breakfast with friends who were in town for said wedding, Monday around 6pm when I was still at work, Thursday morning while I got my car inspected...that's a lot of texting, right? In all of those texts, there was no mention of another date. There was still a lot of talk of wanting to see each other again, but no "hey - what are you doing this weekend? Do you want to hangout?" Nothing.
So I decided to take matters into my own hands yesterday afternoon. I asked him if he wanted to make plans to get together. He was amenable and we got a few texts into making plans for "sometime soon" - just about the time for me to say that weekends were best and to ask if he worked every Saturday since I already had plans for Friday...and then the text messages stopped. Nothing since then. I sent one more last night asking him to call when he had time so we could setup the next date.
Now I'm waiting for the phone to ring. And we all know a watched phone never rings.
I've been trying to hypothesize as to what may be going on in order to prepare myself for the potential of no second date:
1. He is dating other people as well and found someone he liked better. This could be a definite possibility. Because the week or so while we were planning to meet up, he had not checked his Match.com account. However, he totally checked his Match.com account earlier this week. I know because I checked earlier this week and it said that he had been active within 24 hours - so Sunday night or Monday.
This could also mean that he thinks that I might be dating other people as well, but you know that I'm not. And I know that I'm not. But I still have yet to totally understand the thought processes of those with a Y chromosome so I would hope that he would think that I'm not. I'm looking to date one person, not a thousand people.
2. Something I said in one of my text messages changed his mind. I don't think this is the case because I said slightly more controversial things while we were out. But if my headache/hangover on Sunday because I had way too much fun and booze hanging out with my college friends at the wedding, then it would never work since I love my college friends and they've been around longer. They are part of my life and no one that I barely know will change my relationship with any of my friends. They either join in the fun or go home.
3. His grandfather is sick again. This can't be it - he would have told me since he told me last time.
4. Abducted by aliens (to use a friend's phrase) - this is when a guy just disappears. Stops calling or messaging. This is quite a frequent occurrence, at least in my and my friend's experiences. However, he does write back on occasion. He hasn't been on Match.com since Sunday night or Monday so the abduction could have taken place around 4pm yesterday.
Hopefully I'll have either a date or some results of my hypotheses above. I'm really hoping to have the date and not the reason that he stopped texting during our attempts to set a date.
Monday, September 22, 2008
Date 1: A Success So Far
I finally met "Hurricane guy"!
Friday we planned to meet at Station Square for drinks. I was doing the nervous/excited thing prior to the date. This was then replaced with some fear that maybe he didn't look like his picture - that maybe he had turned into a troll and I would have to figure out how to get out of the date. This fear was multiplied by "Hurricane guy's" request that we meet right outside of the bar and walk in together. He got there about 10 minutes after I did.
So I was waiting for him to park and walk over. Anytime there was a guy walking past by himself, I stared at him from my bench to see if it was "Hurricane guy". For most of the 7 minutes that I was sitting there, most people didn't look close. However, there was one guy who was walking towards the bar and looked a lot like "Hurricane guy's" picture except that he was bald. I started to panic because although I know it's shallow, I want a man with hair. I know I can't control it if he goes bald later, but I want hair now.
So the bald guy walks past and into the bar. When he didn't come back out and I didn't get a text or a call, I figured I had dodged a bullet. Which was confirmed a minute or so later when "Hurricane guy" walked up. He was very cute - lovely green eyes. And he has hair! We grabbed a table outside as it was too loud inside. We both had the Sam Adams Oktoberfest beer (quite a tasty beer by the way) and ordered an appetizer to split.
We talked about work, movies, football, school...I was a bit nervous at first but after about an hour I was able to relax and crack some jokes without feeling completely awkward. We had a few drinks and then decided to go up to Mount Washington to walk around. As "Hurricane guy" put it, "we had the drink thing, now let's do the romantic thing". We were holding hands before we even left the bar...
Mount Washington was beautiful. It was a perfect night - not too cold but not humid and it was pretty clear. We traveled to all of the overlooks and eventually settled on a bench to sit on for awhile. We tried to find a place that was secluded in order to make out, but we kept getting interrupted by pedestrians. While we were on the bench though, the Pirates game ended and the fireworks started to go off by the stadium. Talk about perfect timing! So after an hour on top of the mountain making out and watching fireworks, we jumped back on the incline to Station Square.
On the incline down, we tried to get one of the cars to ourselves. However, we were invaded by a couple and their two children. We got back to the bottom of Mt. Washington and headed back to our cars. This comes to the weird portion of the date.
The first part was fantastic, but the second part I'm not sure of. It will depend on how much information he gives up. So he has a roommate and it's a guy, but because of this roommate we wouldn't be able to go to his place. So I think he lives with his dad. And I know because I live with my mom and I say the same thing. So we were relegated to go and make out in his car. It felt like I was back in high school again. So we are going to have to find a way to fix this situation. Or at least if he admits that he lives with his parents I would be ok. Then again, I never gave up the info either. So I guess both "Hurricane guy" and I have our issues.
Regardless, I do want to see him again and see how things go. There are a couple other things that I am a bit concerned with, but I figured that I should definitely get to know him a little better. We've been texting since Friday night and he definitely wants to see me again so things seem to have worked out well. Let's just hope he doesn't get back together with an ex like "CMU guy".
Friday we planned to meet at Station Square for drinks. I was doing the nervous/excited thing prior to the date. This was then replaced with some fear that maybe he didn't look like his picture - that maybe he had turned into a troll and I would have to figure out how to get out of the date. This fear was multiplied by "Hurricane guy's" request that we meet right outside of the bar and walk in together. He got there about 10 minutes after I did.
So I was waiting for him to park and walk over. Anytime there was a guy walking past by himself, I stared at him from my bench to see if it was "Hurricane guy". For most of the 7 minutes that I was sitting there, most people didn't look close. However, there was one guy who was walking towards the bar and looked a lot like "Hurricane guy's" picture except that he was bald. I started to panic because although I know it's shallow, I want a man with hair. I know I can't control it if he goes bald later, but I want hair now.
So the bald guy walks past and into the bar. When he didn't come back out and I didn't get a text or a call, I figured I had dodged a bullet. Which was confirmed a minute or so later when "Hurricane guy" walked up. He was very cute - lovely green eyes. And he has hair! We grabbed a table outside as it was too loud inside. We both had the Sam Adams Oktoberfest beer (quite a tasty beer by the way) and ordered an appetizer to split.
We talked about work, movies, football, school...I was a bit nervous at first but after about an hour I was able to relax and crack some jokes without feeling completely awkward. We had a few drinks and then decided to go up to Mount Washington to walk around. As "Hurricane guy" put it, "we had the drink thing, now let's do the romantic thing". We were holding hands before we even left the bar...
Mount Washington was beautiful. It was a perfect night - not too cold but not humid and it was pretty clear. We traveled to all of the overlooks and eventually settled on a bench to sit on for awhile. We tried to find a place that was secluded in order to make out, but we kept getting interrupted by pedestrians. While we were on the bench though, the Pirates game ended and the fireworks started to go off by the stadium. Talk about perfect timing! So after an hour on top of the mountain making out and watching fireworks, we jumped back on the incline to Station Square.
On the incline down, we tried to get one of the cars to ourselves. However, we were invaded by a couple and their two children. We got back to the bottom of Mt. Washington and headed back to our cars. This comes to the weird portion of the date.
The first part was fantastic, but the second part I'm not sure of. It will depend on how much information he gives up. So he has a roommate and it's a guy, but because of this roommate we wouldn't be able to go to his place. So I think he lives with his dad. And I know because I live with my mom and I say the same thing. So we were relegated to go and make out in his car. It felt like I was back in high school again. So we are going to have to find a way to fix this situation. Or at least if he admits that he lives with his parents I would be ok. Then again, I never gave up the info either. So I guess both "Hurricane guy" and I have our issues.
Regardless, I do want to see him again and see how things go. There are a couple other things that I am a bit concerned with, but I figured that I should definitely get to know him a little better. We've been texting since Friday night and he definitely wants to see me again so things seem to have worked out well. Let's just hope he doesn't get back together with an ex like "CMU guy".
Thursday, September 18, 2008
And the Roller Coaster Continues
The date is back on. Either tonight or tomorrow for sure. I just spoke with "Hurricane guy" - it turns out that his grandfather went to the ER with chest pain and got a cardiac cath. I don't know exactly what that is but "Hurricane guy's" grandfather is doing ok now.
"Hurricane guy" felt really bad that he had to cancel. He apologized a couple times and that he totally understood if I didn't want to meet him after he cancelled, even though I told him that I understand that these things happen. That was a little over dramatic..."Hurricane guy" and I might be a very good match!
We chatted for a bit and I asked if he wanted to setup another time to meet. With lots of stuff going on, it's going to be a bit tight but honestly, who needs to sleep when there are cute, cool guys to meet? I mentioned that I could find some time tonight or tomorrow. "Hurricane guy" proposed that we set tomorrow for sure and then asked if he called later tonight if we could do something spontaneously. I was amenable to a last minute Thursday night meeting but just that I needed time to take a shower after working on the deviled eggs since I didn't want to show up smelling of egg. I didn't want to be that freaky looking, unibrow girl from the Planter's peanut commercial. I was impressed - he ran with the joke, saying that it was such a coincidence that egg/Miracle Whip is his favorite perfume. haha
So I guess it was a good thing that I boiled all of the eggs for the tailgate last night and have them setup. It took forever, but now I just need to make the filling, which shouldn't take too much time - allowing me to meet "Hurricane guy" before my fanstically fabulous weekend! :)
"Hurricane guy" felt really bad that he had to cancel. He apologized a couple times and that he totally understood if I didn't want to meet him after he cancelled, even though I told him that I understand that these things happen. That was a little over dramatic..."Hurricane guy" and I might be a very good match!
We chatted for a bit and I asked if he wanted to setup another time to meet. With lots of stuff going on, it's going to be a bit tight but honestly, who needs to sleep when there are cute, cool guys to meet? I mentioned that I could find some time tonight or tomorrow. "Hurricane guy" proposed that we set tomorrow for sure and then asked if he called later tonight if we could do something spontaneously. I was amenable to a last minute Thursday night meeting but just that I needed time to take a shower after working on the deviled eggs since I didn't want to show up smelling of egg. I didn't want to be that freaky looking, unibrow girl from the Planter's peanut commercial. I was impressed - he ran with the joke, saying that it was such a coincidence that egg/Miracle Whip is his favorite perfume. haha
So I guess it was a good thing that I boiled all of the eggs for the tailgate last night and have them setup. It took forever, but now I just need to make the filling, which shouldn't take too much time - allowing me to meet "Hurricane guy" before my fanstically fabulous weekend! :)
Wednesday, September 17, 2008
Online Dating: A Total Roller Coaster
Yesterday evening I got a call from "Hurricane guy". He was working and just wanted to talk for awhile. We chatted for about 20 minutes while I was leaving work and it was cool. He's definitely fun to talk to and laid back about things. After the call I was even more nervous and excited to meet him tonight.
So I finally hit the downside of the day and I was thinking that I might need to go home first to get a different outfit because it was warm outside and a cute sweater might make me sweaty with the temperature and I don't want to smell on my date.
I walk back over to my desk to see that I had a text. I figured it was from him since he texts me every once in awhile. Sadly, the message said "Hey there! I know you're going to be upset but I have to reschedule tonight. I'm dealing with a family emergency." I wrote back that I totally understood even though it sucks that I won't get to meet him tonight and that I hope things are ok.
So I guess I'm going to have to wait even longer. Up, down, up, down...yup. A roller coaster of emotions and I haven't even met "Hurricane guy" yet.
So I finally hit the downside of the day and I was thinking that I might need to go home first to get a different outfit because it was warm outside and a cute sweater might make me sweaty with the temperature and I don't want to smell on my date.
I walk back over to my desk to see that I had a text. I figured it was from him since he texts me every once in awhile. Sadly, the message said "Hey there! I know you're going to be upset but I have to reschedule tonight. I'm dealing with a family emergency." I wrote back that I totally understood even though it sucks that I won't get to meet him tonight and that I hope things are ok.
So I guess I'm going to have to wait even longer. Up, down, up, down...yup. A roller coaster of emotions and I haven't even met "Hurricane guy" yet.
Monday, September 15, 2008
The Plans Are Set!
I've come to the conclusion that "Hurricane Guy" was just being polite answering my email the other day. He texted me as he was waiting to find out whether he was going to be deployed. Sadly, he didn't have any updates by the time I left work Friday evening, so I went out with coworkers for happy hour and then hung out with my friends the rest of the weekend. It totally worked out since a friend of mine was in town for the whole weekend so my whole group partied it up all weekend and watched a ton of football.
Today I decided to text to find out how his weekend was and if he was deployed. "Hurricane Guy" was deployed to San Antonio and just got back (I'm guessing last night or today.) Through text message we made plans to meet up this week. So Wednesday I will get to meet "Hurricane Guy" in person and see what he's like and what he looks like.
I'm definitely nervous again even though I know he really wants to meet me. He only told me that about 8 times through text message last Friday. I can't help it though. I have to figure out what I'm going to wear, which is difficult since I was going to wear what I wore the last time when I met "CMU guy" just in case it was a lucky outfit. However, looking at the weather this weekend, it might be too chilly for a skirt. And I'm meeting "Hurricane Guy" at Station Square, so a skirt might be dangerous since it can be windy down by the river. Don't feel like flashing "Hurricane Guy" and the rest of the Station Square Wednesday revelers. However, I need to find something cute that makes me look skinny, so this could take a few days.
Check for a recap on Thursday! Hopefully a positive recap if I can keep my nerves in check...
Today I decided to text to find out how his weekend was and if he was deployed. "Hurricane Guy" was deployed to San Antonio and just got back (I'm guessing last night or today.) Through text message we made plans to meet up this week. So Wednesday I will get to meet "Hurricane Guy" in person and see what he's like and what he looks like.
I'm definitely nervous again even though I know he really wants to meet me. He only told me that about 8 times through text message last Friday. I can't help it though. I have to figure out what I'm going to wear, which is difficult since I was going to wear what I wore the last time when I met "CMU guy" just in case it was a lucky outfit. However, looking at the weather this weekend, it might be too chilly for a skirt. And I'm meeting "Hurricane Guy" at Station Square, so a skirt might be dangerous since it can be windy down by the river. Don't feel like flashing "Hurricane Guy" and the rest of the Station Square Wednesday revelers. However, I need to find something cute that makes me look skinny, so this could take a few days.
Check for a recap on Thursday! Hopefully a positive recap if I can keep my nerves in check...
Saturday, September 13, 2008
The Potential for Multiple Personalities?
Funny thing – I came home and checked my email and saw that I had an email from “Hurricane guy”. I thought that was a little odd since I spoke with him on the phone last night and I figured he would call. In fact, I was waiting for him to call to let me know if he was going to be deployed to Texas to help with relief efforts after Ike hits.
Essentially the email said that he was better in person, thanked me for the phone number, and that he would give me a call soon so we can plan to meet up. He and I already had that conversation. On the phone. Somewhere around 7pm last night. We're going to a bar in Station Square...
Also, every one of the 5 sentences ended with an exclamation point. It was weird.
So I'm thinking that one of 3 things is going on:
1. He was being polite and just answering my email despite the fact we spoke on the phone.
2. He is really excited to meet me (hence the !'s) so he couldn't resist the opportunity to communicate with me in some way.
3. He doesn't realize that the email he answered this afternoon was from the same women he spoke on the phone with last night.
4. I didn't actually talk to “Hurricane guy” - it was just his friend on the phone.
5. “Hurricane guy” has at least 2 personalities rolling around in his head...maybe more.
I'm really hoping that it's number 1 or 2. But I will be paying attention when we meet or he calls to find out if it's number 3 or 4.
Essentially the email said that he was better in person, thanked me for the phone number, and that he would give me a call soon so we can plan to meet up. He and I already had that conversation. On the phone. Somewhere around 7pm last night. We're going to a bar in Station Square...
Also, every one of the 5 sentences ended with an exclamation point. It was weird.
So I'm thinking that one of 3 things is going on:
1. He was being polite and just answering my email despite the fact we spoke on the phone.
2. He is really excited to meet me (hence the !'s) so he couldn't resist the opportunity to communicate with me in some way.
3. He doesn't realize that the email he answered this afternoon was from the same women he spoke on the phone with last night.
4. I didn't actually talk to “Hurricane guy” - it was just his friend on the phone.
5. “Hurricane guy” has at least 2 personalities rolling around in his head...maybe more.
I'm really hoping that it's number 1 or 2. But I will be paying attention when we meet or he calls to find out if it's number 3 or 4.
Friday, September 12, 2008
Timing is Everything
After I got home last night I was thinking about calling "Hurricane guy". Then I heard them say on the news about Ike heading towards Texas so I figured I'd better act now before he's out of town for another few weeks.
Typically I would wait for a response after I email a guy, or at least wait a few days to give him an opportunity to read it. However, I justify calling last night by the fact that "Attorney guy" hasn't written or called in awhile. "Attorney guy" had called one day to try to plan a time to meet up and I got so busy that I forgot to call for 2 days. Then he was too busy. I got a couple more emails but I'm still waiting for a response.
Hence, I picked logged on to get "Hurricane guy's" phone number and left him a message. It was a great message - totally original and witty.
"Hi 'Hurricane guy'. This is [my name - I use my real name]from Match. I emailed you earlier but I decided that I should give you a call since I heard that Ike's bearing down on Texas and you would probably be heading out of town soon. Give me a call back at [insert number] and let me know if you want to meet."
The phone rang about 25 minutes later. "Hurricane guy" said that he thought that the voicemail was great and he's definitely looking forward to meeting me. We picked a place to meet, but unfortunately the day depends on the weather. Apparently he will find out by today if he has to head down to Texas to do more hurricane relief work with the military. So let's hope that Ike finds some cold water and dissipates since I want to meet this guy.
Typically I would wait for a response after I email a guy, or at least wait a few days to give him an opportunity to read it. However, I justify calling last night by the fact that "Attorney guy" hasn't written or called in awhile. "Attorney guy" had called one day to try to plan a time to meet up and I got so busy that I forgot to call for 2 days. Then he was too busy. I got a couple more emails but I'm still waiting for a response.
Hence, I picked logged on to get "Hurricane guy's" phone number and left him a message. It was a great message - totally original and witty.
"Hi 'Hurricane guy'. This is [my name - I use my real name]from Match. I emailed you earlier but I decided that I should give you a call since I heard that Ike's bearing down on Texas and you would probably be heading out of town soon. Give me a call back at [insert number] and let me know if you want to meet."
The phone rang about 25 minutes later. "Hurricane guy" said that he thought that the voicemail was great and he's definitely looking forward to meeting me. We picked a place to meet, but unfortunately the day depends on the weather. Apparently he will find out by today if he has to head down to Texas to do more hurricane relief work with the military. So let's hope that Ike finds some cold water and dissipates since I want to meet this guy.
Thursday, September 11, 2008
Some Positive Results
Lately I feel that my blogs have been rather negative as I have felt that the options that I thought I had available disappeared. Additionally, new options were not presenting themselves. While I still feel this is true to some measure, this morning's email check brought a wonderful surprise - an email from "Hurricane guy".
"Hurricane guy" was a guy I winked at in the set of 500 men I reviewed a month ago. He winked back, I emailed him, and then...nothing. I wasn't too disheartened since I was still recovering from having met "CMU guy" and all the fallout from that, as well as some fallout in the offline world. Reading his profile he seemed pretty laid back and not overly serious. This could be a bad thing, but after the month of August, I'm looking forward to some fun and going on a couple real dates.
The content of the email is how "Hurricane guy" got his name. He apparently took so long to respond because he was deployed to Louisiana for hurricane relief through the military. He's also does public safety work. So I guess he's actually a man...unlike many of the guys I've met in the sense that he's been in the line of danger. That kind of stuff. I'm rather interested to hear the stories.
At the end of the email, "Hurricane guy" gave me his number, saying that he was better in person or on the phone. However, I am terrible on the phone and better in person on through email. It looks like we're going to have to meet and I'm going to have to take the chance that it will turn out like "First guy". I handled the rejection very well, but I didn't have the fear of running out of men on Match.com at the time. I just need to relax and make the phone call. I've survived the past 3 weeks so I'm sure I'll make it through the next couple. If not, I'm sure I'll complain about it here. Stay tuned...
"Hurricane guy" was a guy I winked at in the set of 500 men I reviewed a month ago. He winked back, I emailed him, and then...nothing. I wasn't too disheartened since I was still recovering from having met "CMU guy" and all the fallout from that, as well as some fallout in the offline world. Reading his profile he seemed pretty laid back and not overly serious. This could be a bad thing, but after the month of August, I'm looking forward to some fun and going on a couple real dates.
The content of the email is how "Hurricane guy" got his name. He apparently took so long to respond because he was deployed to Louisiana for hurricane relief through the military. He's also does public safety work. So I guess he's actually a man...unlike many of the guys I've met in the sense that he's been in the line of danger. That kind of stuff. I'm rather interested to hear the stories.
At the end of the email, "Hurricane guy" gave me his number, saying that he was better in person or on the phone. However, I am terrible on the phone and better in person on through email. It looks like we're going to have to meet and I'm going to have to take the chance that it will turn out like "First guy". I handled the rejection very well, but I didn't have the fear of running out of men on Match.com at the time. I just need to relax and make the phone call. I've survived the past 3 weeks so I'm sure I'll make it through the next couple. If not, I'm sure I'll complain about it here. Stay tuned...
Wednesday, September 10, 2008
I Just Got E-Rejected
This was disappointing. I winked at a guy and instead of just never winking back, he sent me a rejection. In my opinion, this is rather inappropriate. I am totally cool with getting a rejection email if I email you, but this is the equivalent of the following situation:
You're at a bar, checking a guy out across the room, and he walks over and tells you to stop looking at him because he doesn't think you're pretty or you have bad breath that he can smell all the way across the room.
That's rather brazen. And then to make it worse, Match.com decides to include their own message. Match.com tells you not to be discouraged and to contact other people. They provide recommendations, thinking that it's helpful. However, they need to hire some better programmers because I already encountered 2 of the guys they recommended!! The guy on the right is a douche - I looked at his profile weeks ago. I'm not Italian so he's not interested. The guy in the middle I winked at about a week and a half ago. No response. At least he didn't sent that email!
So imagine the above situation occurring and then cheerleaders come running over telling you that you're still going to win the game despite the fact that all of your starters are out for the season.
You're at a bar, checking a guy out across the room, and he walks over and tells you to stop looking at him because he doesn't think you're pretty or you have bad breath that he can smell all the way across the room.
That's rather brazen. And then to make it worse, Match.com decides to include their own message. Match.com tells you not to be discouraged and to contact other people. They provide recommendations, thinking that it's helpful. However, they need to hire some better programmers because I already encountered 2 of the guys they recommended!! The guy on the right is a douche - I looked at his profile weeks ago. I'm not Italian so he's not interested. The guy in the middle I winked at about a week and a half ago. No response. At least he didn't sent that email!
So imagine the above situation occurring and then cheerleaders come running over telling you that you're still going to win the game despite the fact that all of your starters are out for the season.
Tuesday, September 9, 2008
Making Changes...or Corrections
So going through the 100+ people from out of state or out of country did not deter eHarmony from sending me more matches from out of state or out of country. I had another 7 matches in the past 36 hours from MI, VA, OH, and Canada. I guess that this proves that Pittsburgh is a shitty place to be single since I wasn't matching with anyone within the tri-county area.
In an attempt to start getting people in the Pittsburgh area as potential matches, I went into my profile and updated it. I changed some settings (such as how important is location? VERY!) and added information to my profile. Hopefully this will start getting me more people around here that I can screen by picture and height like I do with Match.com.
The only thing that got me today was a match in Butler (that was the only new match I received in PA.) It threw me off because the guy was cute, the right age, gainfully employed...so I answered his first questions. Then I looked at his profile again and he is 5'5". That's shorter than me. I adjusted the "how important is height" setting. Too bad I couldn't select a height range of height>5'8". I want to be able to wear heels on occasion when I haven't broken my toe cavorting around the city on a Saturday afternoon.
All in all though, I am being hopefully. I think I now have a profile that is more informative and funny. Maybe I'll get some good matches!
In an attempt to start getting people in the Pittsburgh area as potential matches, I went into my profile and updated it. I changed some settings (such as how important is location? VERY!) and added information to my profile. Hopefully this will start getting me more people around here that I can screen by picture and height like I do with Match.com.
The only thing that got me today was a match in Butler (that was the only new match I received in PA.) It threw me off because the guy was cute, the right age, gainfully employed...so I answered his first questions. Then I looked at his profile again and he is 5'5". That's shorter than me. I adjusted the "how important is height" setting. Too bad I couldn't select a height range of height>5'8". I want to be able to wear heels on occasion when I haven't broken my toe cavorting around the city on a Saturday afternoon.
All in all though, I am being hopefully. I think I now have a profile that is more informative and funny. Maybe I'll get some good matches!
Sunday, September 7, 2008
Location, Location, Location
I finally decided to clean up my eHarmony account. I pretty much stopped bothering with eHarmony when things were going well with Match.com. However, it appears as though Match has dried up so I want to ensure that I am taking advantage of all of my opportunities.
Since I haven't bothered with eHarmony, I have approximately 260 new matches. Additionally, the way eHarmony works, I need to go into almost all of these men's profiles to close the match so I can keep my account up to date.
Looking through these matches, there are very few from Pittsburgh. Most of my matches are in Ohio, Kentucky, Michigan, Maryland, and Canada. Of the 20 I've gone through so far, I believe around 4 of them were from Canada. Really? Canada? I selected within 30 miles of my zip code and that's the smallest area. I know that Canada is definitely way more than 30 miles from where I live.
And I absolutely refuse to commute to date someone. I don't have the energy to be driving across states and between countries to date someone. I will stay single if that is the case. I want to meet this dude who came up with this Flexible Matching concept. There is not flexibility with Flexible Matching. In fact, there is less flexibility as I would probably kill my car trying to meet and date someone from CANADA! Stupid Canada always finds a way to jump right on into American life even though they aren't relevant.
So for the next 2 hours until I go to bed, I will be removing matches from eHarmony. Hopefully I won't fall asleep trying to complete this task. Also, someone remind me next Sunday to not start such arduous tasks late on a Sunday night.
Since I haven't bothered with eHarmony, I have approximately 260 new matches. Additionally, the way eHarmony works, I need to go into almost all of these men's profiles to close the match so I can keep my account up to date.
Looking through these matches, there are very few from Pittsburgh. Most of my matches are in Ohio, Kentucky, Michigan, Maryland, and Canada. Of the 20 I've gone through so far, I believe around 4 of them were from Canada. Really? Canada? I selected within 30 miles of my zip code and that's the smallest area. I know that Canada is definitely way more than 30 miles from where I live.
And I absolutely refuse to commute to date someone. I don't have the energy to be driving across states and between countries to date someone. I will stay single if that is the case. I want to meet this dude who came up with this Flexible Matching concept. There is not flexibility with Flexible Matching. In fact, there is less flexibility as I would probably kill my car trying to meet and date someone from CANADA! Stupid Canada always finds a way to jump right on into American life even though they aren't relevant.
So for the next 2 hours until I go to bed, I will be removing matches from eHarmony. Hopefully I won't fall asleep trying to complete this task. Also, someone remind me next Sunday to not start such arduous tasks late on a Sunday night.
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